Christmas !

Ditto Maggiemaybe-

I'd say yes, with the proviso that they sort themselves out and leave the place as they found it. It does seem a shame not to let them have a break with their friends while the house is empty anyway. I'd be miffed too in her place at being knocked back.

Oh goodness did you say 24 and you can't trust her and three other young people in your house alone I think that's very unbelievable Surely it's much better than leaving an empty house to be burgled .... unless you know she's unreliable I would thought you would love to have them looking after your home for you while you're away shes not a child not a teenager surely she a responsible adult and your own not a stranger
I m not surprised she's miffed I d be hurt
If you, your husband and your friend have all made your minds up that it's impossible to say yes then why ask for ideas on here ?

Doesn't sound as though Glamdram wants any suggestions apart from 'Just Say No'...

She's not exactly a student or a teenager! I would have thought she could be trusted with the proviso that she gets it all ready and deals with it all when they leave. Sheets could always be sent to a laundry - at their expense.

My response would be no, can you trust her not to have a party ? I tend not to allow people to stay in my houses unless I am there too.

They would all come on train ...so wouldn't be able to carry it all .

I don't think I could stand it while I was away wondering and wondering

My best friend has just texted and agrees it's No ...she knows us and house very well
So it's a no from me ...and no from OH too

Would it work if you agreed to your dd bringing friends but that you take nothing to do with the arrangements. No sorting beds or bedding.

Your dd or the friends can bring a Z bed/sleep on sofa/ floor/ inflatable air bed/ whatever they wish. And the house left as they found it with any bedding washed (if not ironed), Or indeed being their own bedding I.e. sleeping bags. Also kitchen and bathroom left clean.

Friends who come to visit us at our summer holiday apartment are asked to bring their own bedding except for the duvet.

She's 24 ....lives in a rented house with two other students.
I wouldn't want to come back to all the washing ,even if it was in the machine!

Tell her they can all come if she sorts the beds out herself and also does the washing (of at least srips the beds and puts it in the machine) before she leaves.

She's a grown woman, let her take some responsibility.