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How judgmental are you?

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Ana Wed 24-Aug-16 12:48:06

I know what you mean, kitty. Makes me laugh the way some posters sneer at the DM yet seem to think the Guardian is beyond reproach! grin

DaphneBroon Wed 24-Aug-16 12:41:02

Slightly off piste a friend and I were talking about the ability to "forgive and forget" and I realised that while I can forgive , I rarely forget hmm
On an Internet forum you only know what you read so a person's true character may be much nicer (or nastier!!) than you think because of what you read.
Food for thought.

kittylester Wed 24-Aug-16 12:36:00

Beingjusgnental is one thing and being aware of it probably means that you become less judgmental - iyswim!

Obviously, as we get older, we do become more and more judgmental or we would get run over by a bus quite regularly as we wouldn't be able to judge the speed.

My point though was that people who vote Tory, read specific newspapers etc etc are not necessarily bad..... or are they?

Linsco56 Wed 24-Aug-16 12:29:40

I think on some level that I probably am judgemental...but aren't most people, whether they admit it or not. We all have our own values and people who are at odds with those values we will have some difficulty to understand their reasoning. I think I am probably becoming a little more tolerant as I grow older (just a little!)

HildaW Wed 24-Aug-16 12:23:20

I think I probably am a bit to keen to make judgements, but life has taught me that its probably because I have not had all the information or do not fully understand the situation.
I do not necessarily see it as a failing however as I KNOW I am being a bit too swift to leap to a conclusion so I usually hold my tongue at first (in real life). On line its a little different as many of these posts are asking straight out for an opinion on a matter that they would only ask of a very close person (if at all) and just as they are hiding behind the mask of the internet so too are the responders. That should not however, give anyone permission to just blurt out anything and everything - a little tact and good manners will never go amiss. But if someone asked me my opinion on animal cruelty, child abuse or Donald Trump....I'd pretty much scream the same thing!!

NanaandGrampy Wed 24-Aug-16 12:16:38

I truly don't know Kitty .

But then a lot of things amaze me these days and not in a good way.

kittylester Wed 24-Aug-16 12:08:40

Surely, it is too simplistic to not wonder about the things that might make a person behave or post in a specific way. I think it is easier NOT to shoot from the hip online but to be more considered - which doesn't mean I get it right!

NanaandGrampy Wed 24-Aug-16 12:00:07

If you are Kitty so am I smile .

I think it's very easy to be judgemental on an online forum.

You can't see and don't personally know the others on the forum. You don't know their circumstances. There are no facial or bodily clues in the communication. You can be semi anonymous if you choose.

There are little or no consequences to being blunt or outspoken ( except being told off by GNHQ) .

It's sooooo easy.

AND it's easy to shoot from the hip in response to a post that strikes a chord with you using little or no thought for all the things I've mentioned.

I liken it to the fact if I have a favour to ask , I always ask in person not text or a phone call because it is harder to say no in person.

That's the bit we miss online I think.

kittylester Wed 24-Aug-16 11:54:18

Fairly early on in my life with GN, I posed the same question. That time it was prompted by outside events but this time it is prompted by some terribly bad tempered threads lately.

So, how judgmental are you? Am i totally beyond the pale just because I voted Tory and read The Times and DM?