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What makes you feel old?

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soundinmind Wed 17-Aug-16 10:37:19

I've always been quite active and try and be very positive about my life (and my age!) But I'm beginning to show signs of 'getting older' and it's scaring me. I have a knee op scheduled for a month's time and it's the first major operation since giving birth and I'm very, very nervous. My last eye test showed my eyesight has worsened quite a bit since last time and I'm feeling very disconnected from my almost teen grandchildren who I've till now had a very good relationship with. I read the papers and watch telly and everyone looks so...young. How do I get my joie de vivre back!? I refuse to be 'past it' just yet even if the evidence is telling me otherwise!

Lupin Thu 18-Aug-16 11:13:11

Various things I have to buy from the chemist - one of them is Gaviscon and I'm not telling about the others.
Mistakenly activating the camera on my laptop and thinking Oh my God! It's my mother! Who has been dead for a number of years.
Crinkly eyes that take longer to make up than the rest of my face put together.
Having to catch up to others when walking.
Although I appreciate it - being given a seat on public transport. Perhaps those youngsters who don't do this may be trying to be tactful.
When feeling insecure, feeling a smile come across my face reminiscent of the one Private Godfrey of Dad's Army used to wear.
Oh dear! I relate to so many other instances on here.
Behind my veneer of acceptance I feel bloody minded about it.

Jaycee5 Thu 18-Aug-16 11:11:33

I fainted at a bus stop a few years ago on a hot day and I could hear someone phoning an ambulance. She said she's very old, really really old (said with great emphasis). I recovered before the bus or the ambulance came but realised that I have gone from looking young for my age to looking ancient.

starbird Thu 18-Aug-16 11:03:43

Spiral Staircase at 70! That is so optimistic and positive, at 69 I am wondering if I will be able to fit a stairlift in my house or have to move in a year ot two.

I feel old when I look in the mirror first thing in the morning. Beginning to think I will have to give up line dancing because it makes my legs ache all week afterwards, I was loving table tennis but it makes me feel lightheaded sometimes and now I find its because I have an irregular heart rhythm so it will be back to short mat bowls - hard to get excited about that. In all honesty I could happily sit and read, watch tv , potter in the garden and do nothing (cleaning is only done when I am expecting a visitor) but as I live alone I feel I have to make an effort or maybe not.

Can't help wondering how old you have to be for people to offer you a seat on a train, and I'm thinking of getting a fold up stick so that I can look decrepid enough to turf out younger people from the seats reserved for the elderly.

Juney64 Thu 18-Aug-16 10:55:47

When I stopped plucking my eyebrows and started plucking my chin I realised the clock is ticking. smile.

ninuksmith Thu 18-Aug-16 10:52:25

I can now understand when my mother-in-law (sorry can't remember the abbreviated version) used to reminiscent her younger days and said "Where is that young girl who used to jumped onto a moving bus on her way to work every morning?". And now here I am walking with GD who remarked "Why are we walking so slowly,Nana?" She was happy to be explained that Nana's old knees couldn't go faster. But I am thankful that I can still able to enjoy my gardening. As others also mentioned...look forward and accept it and enjoy the moment. Here's to all Gransnetters...we have to go through it all and hopefully with less pains as possible.

Stansgran Thu 18-Aug-16 10:45:10

We need visas to go to China and are required to photocopy previous visas. I dug out our old passports and DH said looking at mine
Look at that beautiful woman.
He was holding my new visa photos in his other hand. I've been feeling weepy ever since and I wish he had told me at the time!

soldiersailor Thu 18-Aug-16 10:43:27

When at 65 I tried paragliding and found it took the best part of 45 minutes to climb back to the top of the hill. Until then I'd always felt about 45! Now at 70 I feel like 48 and have recently renovated my house pretty much single handed, incuding installing a cast iron spiral staircase. Being Welsh I subscribe totally to my hero Dylan Thomas' approach which is to 'not go gentle into that good night'. And to hell with the diabetes and sciatica!

EEJit Thu 18-Aug-16 10:36:25

Walking around an antique fair and seeing toys I used to play with.

Realising its nearly 50 years since I left school.

Admitting that I become a pensioner next year

Bamm Thu 18-Aug-16 10:25:58

My grandson, then four (they live in the USA so only visit once a year) sat on my knee and studied me with great interest. After a while he pointed to my neck and upper arms and asked about them. Then he said "yes great gran has this ".

Worlass Thu 18-Aug-16 10:24:36

Visiting a local 'time capsule' house, open to the public as a small museum, and discovering that it is full of the things I had in my first marital home. hmm

Lewlew Thu 18-Aug-16 10:22:58

My sis in law is 76, TEN years older than me! And I look older than her! She's had very serious surgery on her bile duct and liver that happened the same time as my back surgery (hey, who deserts their best friend!)

She's back to her lovely youthful looking self. I struggle with lifting stuff and stamina from the back problem. I get wrinkles, she has laugh lines.

Life is ironic... it is also going very fast. It's like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end of it, the faster it goes!

wombat Thu 18-Aug-16 10:18:58

Seeing old newsreel footage from the 1950s and 60s makes me feel ancient - it looks like another world and such a very long time ago and yet I was alive then! It makes me feel glad, though, knowing I have all those wonderful memories that younger people will never have.

sue01 Thu 18-Aug-16 10:11:29

Well of course there's the grunting when I get up from a chair... and my failing eyesight, though that's a blessing because I can't see how look... but mostly it's my feet ! Try as I might, I look like a Hobbit from the ankles down !

ShoesieQ Thu 18-Aug-16 10:09:36

Pollyperkins - bet you looked great - everyone knows cameras have an evil way of adding a stone or two.
And Mollydolly - They do say old age is only for the brave and I'd rather be old than the alternative. - spot on!

radicalnan Thu 18-Aug-16 10:09:31

I look at things now, like making new friends and I think, 'can't be bothered, I'm not here for much longer'............

ShoesieQ Thu 18-Aug-16 10:06:17

Soundinmind - good luck with your knee op next month flowers Am sure that you'll be fine. And with any luck you'll be feeling much more youthful in no time at all once your knee's fixed.

As for not being able to relate so well with your grandchildren, I'd their parents feel exactly the same way grin

Anyway, in answer to your qu, what made me feel old was finding out last week that I'm the second oldest member of my WI! Hence my top tip on feeling more youthful is to hang out with people who are older than you are wink

Mollydolly Thu 18-Aug-16 09:56:39

With me it's the filling in of year of birth on computer forms. All that scrolling down and down and down! My biggest blessing is a sense of humour I don't know where I'd be otherwise, but just sometimes I agree it can be very hard. They do say old age is only for the brave and I'd rather be old than the alternative. Hope you feel lots better soon

pollyperkins Thu 18-Aug-16 09:53:42

And Shandi - i also find Im much more careful and slow going down steps or over stiles when I used not to think about it. But a fall would be worse so continue to do it!

pollyperkins Thu 18-Aug-16 09:51:28

Littlefierce I agree completely! Bought a lovely dress online for a wedding. Looked great on the model. Thought it was ok-ish on me if not as good. Then After the event I saw the photos- oh dear I looked dreadful -fat, shapeless and elderly.

goose1964 Thu 18-Aug-16 09:47:56

when womenobviously in there 60s or 70s hurry past me - I'm only in my early 50s but have the hip of a woman 20 years older - thanks arthritis

Mumsy Thu 18-Aug-16 09:42:01

realising that actresses and actors who are the same age as me have aged so much over the years!

littlefierce Thu 18-Aug-16 09:38:59

When you order a couple of maxi dresses from Wallis, thinking they are both stylish & age appropriate - and you still look like crap in them because there is nowhere for the lack of waist & large tummy to hide. Back to layering for me. I'm gutted. They are beautiful dresses sad

harrysgran Thu 18-Aug-16 09:36:02

I do feel old when I look at photographs from when I was in my 30s 40s and when I look in the mirror first thing in the morning but then I think about the alternative and put it to the back of my mind.

pooohbear2811 Thu 18-Aug-16 09:32:27

for me it has to be realising that the my children are approaching 40, when my head still tells me I am 29. Sadly my knees do not agree with my head.

BRedhead59 Thu 18-Aug-16 09:31:05

See your friends more often we all get old together - go places where you will meet others of a similar age.