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I think I would have to put my son's welfare before anything else. Once a parent, always a parent.

I did get help for my son when he lived with us. He had six weeks with a councilor and was put on anti depressants. He simply refuses to either sign on for job seekers or sick, making excuses. Even the subject of him coming to stay is causing friction between my husband and i.. Even if we did agree to the visit, he has no where to go afterwards so that would be awkward. I just don't need this3 stress at the moment. My mother is ill with dementia and lives 250 miles away and i am worried sick about her. My sister has had a breakdown because she looks after my mother. My daughter is getting married in 5 weeks and i am moving house in 2 and half weeks. Oh and i forgot to mention my son has threatened to kill himself after the wedding during a discussion between us. Sorry for all the moans but i really feel at my wits end about it all.

Does he have a mental health support worker or has he ever had a diagnosis? If he has actually assaulted a family member you need to talk to someone about his behaviour. It is time to look after yourself.

There seem to be a lot of younger men who are in this position not apparently mentally ill enough to need support but not able to manage by themselves

This organisation might be aplace to start .
www.rethink.org/carers-family-friends.

I shared an office which was led by a mental health professional and she used to despair about one local councilor on the committee who could never understand the difference between mental Health and learning disabled.

It shows the difficulties of these situations. Community care eh! It rather means no bed available to those needing "asylum" somewhere safe when in the middle of a mental health crisis.

I really don't think your son can go on like this. He may need some help to get his life sorted out but it needs to be done.

Would your husband allow your son to stay for two weeks if he agreed to sign on?

Thoughts please