Useless men

On the whole, Men do what they want to do, Women do what needs to be done.

Why do you think men get married, it's to replace their mothers.

Men do see what needs doing around the house, they dont do anything because they know us women will do it.

Don't always realise how lucky we are, my husband does all the cooking and shopping and will turn his hand to all other household tasks if necessary. We found the household chores split into areas we prefer or are better at. He would not clean as often as I do but I am overly dirt conscious. Have to say sadly that in the event of our demise he would manage better than I.

My DH was the eldest of six so was quite independent and house trained when I got him. He can do, and does, anything. Doesn't need (m)any prompts from me.
He retired before me and had been a teacher so there is an element of control. . . . But, hey, I'm not complaining.
Shame on any mother who allows their children not to be independent and pull their weight.
The hand that rocks the cradle and all that.

Sorry Bella he's all mine

I think it's in the genes. Twin grandchildren, boy and girl. Girl wants to do everything for herself and boy waits for someone to put shoes on etc. But they can be trained. My DH was waited on hand and foot by his mum, he now cooks, does dishwasher and rubbish. Other jobs if asked. However, will not iron or clean bathrooms!

Mine puts the washing machine on and then takes about 45 mins pegging the washing on the line. He eventually does some ironing after hanging everthing up in the spare bedroom to air. That is about it.

I'm like you Nina mine does most things doesn't do ironing will if I can't and doesn't always see things what need doing but I look for things to do so I'm as bad in opposite way but he knew when we married I wouldn't wait on him we are equal

Can I have him nina ?

I'm so lucky,

H will vacuum, clean the bathroom, load the laundry and hang it out and bring it in when dry, clean the oven, load and unload the dish washer deal with the bins and change the bed. He even cooks
He's always been the same. He was a very hands on dad too. However, ex SiL now that's a different story !

My husband has never done anything, he`d be quite content to live in a pile of muck and rubbish.

Well that is amazing Tanith, hope indeed. I have always believed that men learn how to act helplessly somewhere that we women don't know. Is it nursery, primary school or a secret hidden male whispering place under a tree somewhere?

They also seem to know how to impress us with sorting things like burst pipes, fuses, car starting etc, although I know some valiant women can do the same.

If only they would stop asking "where is ..." but then it would be boring, and only speaking for myself, I would have nothing to be annoyed about.

Mustn't say too much about SIL because he's got the children full time for most of the summer holiday, but I do notice that when DD comes home from work she switches straight into "Mummy" mode, whereas he has to have Downtime with his tablet and something to eat before he does anything practical at all. She often gets home before he has started anything and just takes over.

OH used to be the same but since he's retired he's improved no end to my surprise. He now will load put on and unload the dishwasher, vacuum without being asked , make the bed (he now knows it needs to be left to 'air'first), opens up windows and doors in the morning, put out the recycling/rubbish also without being asked, none of which even registered on his radar before. I have hope for the future

what does "men need time so see what needs doing" mean?

Surely for instance, he would have seen a dishwasher full of mouldy dishes?
They would have smelt wouldn't they?

and toys and clothes on floor?

My DH has always been very selective in the little jobs he does around the house. Will vacuum and clean windows.....I was about to write a list, but that's all he does!

I thought the younger generation were different and shared most household tasks...apparently not.

men need time to see what needs doing

Doesnt suit them to see stuff that needs doing

I really hope he was grateful that you've saved his bacon. It'll be interesting to see if he gives you the credit.

see what needs doing at home?