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GandTea Sun 19-Jun-16 22:38:24

Men can accept that type of comic stereo typing, they accept it in good humour. Just listen to men's banter and you will here similar humour.
The only thing that gets my goat are some of the more extreme feminists whose view make me cringe.

GandTea Sun 19-Jun-16 22:34:14

A ladies clothes shop near us had a male manager, he appreciated the problem. He provided a table and some chairs away from the changing rooms, along with free coffee and men's magazines (NO, not playboy).

rosesarered Sun 19-Jun-16 22:31:34

But haven't men been depicted like that for ages ( not a new thing) remember The Last Of The Summer Wine?Also in ads, men are depicted as idiots ( the Plumbs loose covers ad?) Men must be fed up of it I guess.

GandTea Sun 19-Jun-16 22:31:21

LG, you are no help grin

rosesarered Sun 19-Jun-16 22:27:56

Luckygirl ! grin have often thought that myself.

GrandmaKT Sun 19-Jun-16 22:27:36

Yes, I agree - there are often things on TV that make me rather uncomfortable on behalf of men. For example on X factor/BGT female judges (and David Walliams camping it up)drool over young male contestants and make quite crude comments that just would not be tolerated if directed at young girls.

rosesarered Sun 19-Jun-16 22:26:56

Hanging around womens changing rooms waiting for their wives......amazed that any men will do this.DH is the last person I want along on a clothes shopping expedition.He has no idea about these things and would be very bored anyway.Nor does he expect me to go with him to buy his clothes.Ideally I go shopping with a friend but am happy to go myself,with no men in sight to cramp our style. grin

Luckygirl Sun 19-Jun-16 22:23:36

I have always felt sorry for men - who would choose to look that comic in the nude?! grin

Christinefrance Sun 19-Jun-16 22:06:49

Yes I agree , the pendulum has swung the other way now. As you say a lot of things in the media would not be tolerated if they disrespected women. The Loose Women on daytime TV are a prime example of this. I don't watch any more. I know people will say that now men know how women felt but surely we should not follow suit.

GandTea Sun 19-Jun-16 22:05:20

I would like to agree with you VQ, but I don't think most men are that bothered about equality.
As I get older I enjoy my wife's company more and more, I enjoy sharing life with her, if that means sitting in M&Co occasionally, so be it. She comes to watch my ukulele concerts and I appreciate that.

Sex objects --- If women want to look sexy, I'll enjoy it, if men want to look sexy I'll let Mrs P enjoy it, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Vive la difference.

At the end of the day we cuddle up and dream of ?????????

Bellanonna Sun 19-Jun-16 21:57:13

I would never drag my DH along to wait outside changing rooms for me. We would both hate it and I don't usually need another opinion about something as my bum looking big in something would be all too crudely revealed by the changing room mirrors. I'm happy to go with him, though, if he wants me to.

vampirequeen Sun 19-Jun-16 21:48:18

Recently I was taking part in a discussion on a website that is mainly made up of men when it dawned on me how equality has affected men.

I'm not saying we should go back to the times when women had few or no rights, unequal pay, lack of opportunities etc. but I'm wondering if it's gone too far in some ways.

The men were talking about the hours they sit in shops waiting for their wives to try on yet another piece of clothing and how they pass the time. I asked them why they did it. Why go shopping when they hate it so much? The consensus was that it kept the peace. It was easier than the argument and bad feeling that would happen if they said no. The image of a bored man waiting outside a ladies changing room is a standard joke but really it's a man doing something to keep the peace. Would it be seen as funny if a woman was doing something she hated just to keep the peace?

Images of videos and images of woman as sex objects often cause outrage yet the Diet Coke advert where a group of women leer at a man with no shirt on is seen as funny. As are adverts that depict men as halfwits who are incapable of using household appliances, caring for children, etc.

Surely gender equality means that everyone is treated with respect. It seems to me that things have tipped over the other way.