I worked with deaf people for twenty five years, in ro9es such as sign language communicator, lipspeaker and also the manager of a residential home for deaf people with other disabilities. I know a lot about deafness and have even written about it. However, it wasn’t until I persuaded my husband to get hearing aids about two years ago, that I learnt something that I never found out in all that time. Hearing aids seem to be more for the hearing-impaired person’s family and friends than they are for the wearer. I did know about how hearing-impaired people quite often deny that they have a problem and that it is other people who are to blame but I have now realised how stressful it is for me, as a wife, when my husband argues that he her correctly, when !I know he didn’t. We even had to rewind a file, when he had heard (it was something like!) - ”What’s my grandson’s name?”, to which the man replied (according to my husband!), ”It’s Matthew Brown (an episode of ‘The Village’.” Even on the rewind, my husband said, “There you go, I’m right!! He said “It’s Matthew Brown!”) The man in the programme had actually said “It doesn’t matter now.” So, as you can guess, the argument that had already begun became an ‘I told you so’ scenario. Such regular occasions of being up against each other can lead to deterioration in a relationship.
My husband’s hearing aids are for me, not him. He is happy to leave them in a drawer (this is extremely common among hearing-aid wearers) and, now that he realises that he is starting to misunderstand other people, he is starting to wear them more often. I know they start off itchy but you really do need to persevere, not only for yourself but for others.
NHS hearing aids us to be terrible and, because we live in Spain, we didn't qualify for them. We paid £1,500 or so for the Specsavers hearing aids but I do understand that the NHS ones (which you can get at Specsavers) are now just as good as those you buy. Go on. Be fair to those around you.