If you have spare bedrooms, then make one of them your own.
Don't see the sense of putting up with someone , or something that keeps you awake at night.
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Our bedroom is due for a redo and I am wondering what to do.
We have a double bed. As we've got older, neither of us sleep as well as we did. DH used to get in bed fall asleep fast (still does) and barely moved till he got up next day. Now he shifts about and disturbs me and to be fair I probably disturbs him to.
We have two spare bedrooms each with a single bed which the GC use when they visit and in some ways it seems a waste buying yet another two single beds in place of the double when we already have those. I do go and decamp in one of the rooms if I can't sleep.
I did think maybe of one of those beds that has individual mattresses but sort of joined in some way. Does anyone on here have one and what is their opinion.
Be pleased to hear what others have done.
If you have spare bedrooms, then make one of them your own.
Don't see the sense of putting up with someone , or something that keeps you awake at night.
Jl sell the emperor size quilts covers and sheets
We recently bought a Super King bed from John Lewis in the sale. It is 2 singles zipped together. Absolutely brilliant, we have never slept so well. Only 1 problem - finding an quilt and cover that is one size larger. Can't quite work out how 2 quilts work. SK fitted sheet from JL.
I agree with separate rooms, my husband has also got worse for age,snoring,fidgeting etc, he also likes to watch TV late into the night, so much better if I have my sanctuary, .he usually comes in with a lovely cup of tea for a cuddle in the morning and this suits us fine.
Here you go, hope it's clear.
I've since discovered that these mattresses are popular for use in loft conversions, because as I said, they arrive in a neat roll.
You don't turn it, by the way (something to do with the layers/construction), but you do spin it through 360 degrees.
This thread is hilarious! One sleeping lower than the other, waves, trampolines ... husband is heavier than me so it would leave me clinging to "higher ground". All that has stopped now.
Thanks cari - I never think of the obvious! Also I don't have either of those shops near me. Thanks to other posters who replied too.
Will check out the label soon deaneke and let you know.
Super King sleigh bed with sprung mattress and topper from JL (own make). Wonderful. Get the bedding from JL, Stowes, Homesense, Debenhams.
I have just discovered many wonderful vintage linen sheets in French markets. They are usually in perfect condition with gorgeous embroidery and very big. I have dyed a couple and am going to make fitted bottom sheets from others, I can just about do that they are so large, and will make some pillowcases too. I have never seen them at more than €35. Online linen sheets are only found in Italy, or Italian in UK and start at £300.
Worth a day trip to France?
I also prefer the double beds in separate bedrooms. My late husband used to snore, and my fidgeting kept waking him up. So a cuddle at night and in the morning but sleep in separate rooms suited us both. I miss crawling into bed with him in the mornings :-(
My husband and I are sleeping in separate rooms but not by choice. He is sleeping in the living room on the floor propped up against the sofa. This is because he struggles to breath after a while. I have our king sized bed to myself which can be lonely and chilly. I used to keep warm off him because he is like a human radiator!
We have a very big double bed that actually has 2 separate mattresses. It is one of these ones that has an electronic thingy that means you can raise the mattress up at the top so you can sit up & read & also the legs go up sort of under the knees. Really comfortable for reading in bed or drinking tea etc. Obviously if it was one mattress you would both have to be in same position so it has 2 controllers working one mattress each.
It is the most comfortable bed we have ever had & we both sleep better as one turning over doesn't disturb the other but you can still cuddle in the middle!
Good news is that we have single duvets etc. now too so no-one gets covers pulled off in the night.
Even better is it was a real steal on last day of sale in Dreams about 8 years ago. We love it. Best thing we ever bought.
We've had separate bedrooms since we set out on our joint adventure 24 years ago, as Mr Tuna snores. It's never made any difference to us, we still get together and also enjoy our space. He stays up late, I don't. We think it's ideal and it works well with a double bed in each room. Sometimes in hotels or staying with friends we have twin beds, but can share a double which is fine for the odd occasion, but we both generate a lot of heat at night! But for us, separate rooms is the way to go!
Two double beds in two separate rooms lead to a very good night's sleep!
We always had two 3 foot beds, pushed together at first, then zip linked when they came in. We also always used single top bedding, blankets then duvets, but use a super king size sheet on the bottom. It saves a lot of "waves" whenever the other turns over and you keep all your own covers. Also recently I've put a mattress topper on which eliminates the slight lump down the middle.
Though now alone I still sleep in my side. The grandchildren love to sleep in this huge bed with me when they come and there has been as many as 4 plus me on some nights!
I buy my super king size sheets at Dunelm Mills, good choice and good prices.
We have a king-size bed. DH needs a bit of extra room when his leg gets uncomfortable in the night. I wouldn't want to go to single beds. There's nothing like being able to stretch out your hand and feel a warm, living, breathing body beside you in the night.
Seriously considering getting two singles pushed (zipped) together, we had them on holiday last year and it really was so much better. My DH is a night owl and I am the opposite,he also snores and grinds his teeth -God help me ! Trouble is we would have to remove our fitted wardrobes as our 5ft double fits between them with no spare space. After a very stressful kitchen extension I think I may continue to decamp to the spare room as required for a while .
Hi Grannyknot,I am needing a new bed, can you tell me the make....is it a latex mattress? Sounds great. Thanks
When my osteoathritis got so bad I found our ultra firm 5 ft mattress too hard, causing pain in my worst joint, I suggested we buy a memory foam mattress, one of which had proved successful to soften up a guest bed. My husband refused, so I bought a 3ft one for my side & now he sleeps on 2 ft of bed, 3" lower than I. But then I am superior to him in every way!
I'm with PPP and Cathyb on this - separate rooms work a treat. My husband worked shifts and I was fed up with being woken 2 hours before my own early start . And I often went to bed a little earlier only to be woken by the herd of elephants arriving to get into bed.
We wouldn't go back now !
I like supersoft he likes concrete 
It's now my sanctuary, decorated how I like and he comes to visit :-)
Seperate bedrooms work for us I fidget and snore (sometimes) he snores and likes to watch tv. We 'meet' for dates and a cuddle...... We sleep so much better and both happy with the set up
We too have a 6' super king size - lovely and comfortable and plenty of room for both of us. But spoils us for smaller beds. In hotels etc we need at least a 5' bed or can't sleep. I often ask for twins in that case.
I'm with PPP on this one, being together 24/7 is too much, everyone need their own space and we are pleased to see each other in the morning!
Separate rooms! Harmony!
I've always been a poor sleeper and husband the opposite. In recent years his early nights and snoring were totally opposite to my late nights and inability to get to sleep. So, we have decamped into separate rooms. We can read, watch TV, go to the loo, without disturbing each other! And, since retiring, I didn't really want to spend 24 hours of the day with him!
We have a similar dilemma. I do worry that separate beds may be the death knell for our sex life
We have two 3ft beds pushed together, in winter we share a super king sized duvet, single duvets in the summer. Husband much heavier than me, result no more being trampolined when he turns over, plus I can feel him to check if he is still breathing.
Grannyknot - John Lewis or M&S. We bought our last set in Marks and it was a fraction of the price of the JL ones
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