Is it fair, on this website...

I think jings likes a bit of palaver too, lucky

The only 'weapons' I use are words. If what I said feels like a metaphorical knife stab it's because there's some truth in it.

I think that one of the best things about this site is that you have somewhere to go when you are feeling sad. No one is obliged to read it.
I don't think that anyone should be put off posting, bereavement is felt most keenly at what should be happy times.

I know bags - that was what I was getting at!

Thanks luckygirl

True thatbags

Jings choose your sport with care.

Yes, it's fair.
No-one is pushing anything down your throat.

(Helpful hint, avoid newspapers. They are not all full of sunshine and giggles either.)

Don't post anything you wouldn't say to someone's face . Anonymity is no excuse.Err on the side of kindness.

Quite, FarNorth. The news on the telly best avoided too.

I don't understand the premise of the OP anyway, that Mothering Sunday is a day of celebration.

It isn't, IMHO. It's a day of remembrance and gratitude.

Three pages of much ado about nothing. Were you feeling bored today, Jingl?

Much ado about nothing but some people quite upset.

My God! Just come in, and 60 posts!

You sure it's me who's bored?

Yes, totally fair. The OP was careful not to 'tag' her sadness onto an exisitng joyful thread- and start a separate one, in the appropriate area.
No-one was 'made' to click on it.

Agree jane about rememberance and gratitude. Very moved by seeing wonderful photos of Carol when younger with here grand-children- posted by her daughter in that very spirit.

I am perfectly happy to let Gransnet sink beneath a trough of misery, if that's really what lights everyone's candles.

Enjoy.

Drop a pebble in the pond and see how far the ripples spread. Eh, jings?

I agree with merlot and aggie. It probably really hurt jings and brought unhappy thoughts to mind. Sorry for the cod psychology! [hugs] and to everyone who needs then at this time.

Nope! Sorry kitty your cod psychology is completely wrong. Nothing has hurt me.

anno think what you like. As you always do with your particular way of thinking. (which actually says more about you than it does me). I started this thread because I think there are too many miserable threads on Gransnet these days.

As I have already said - twice - I 'm all for giving comfort and sympathy where individual posters need it. But I don't like the general purpose "let's all be bloody miserable together" threads.

I agree, jingl. Gransnet managed perfectly well before without a 'bereavement forum'.

In that case the OP was even more obtuse than ever. Nobody "introduced misery into everything", nobody was stopping anyone else from being happy, "every celebratory day" was not "tinged with sadness" unless you (anyone) chose it to be, or unless it just was for some particular reason.

Your OP comment was tinged with unfairness, jings. Pot, kettle, etc.

I hadn't even noticed there was a bereavement forum. How long has it been there?

I totally agree with you

Don't look at the blasted bereavement forum if it bothers you tinges your day with sadness!

Yes. You're right Ana. I didn't say anything at the time, but I don't think a Bereavement forum is needed. What's wrong with the all-purpose 'Other subjects' forum if you have some unhappy news to share. Or Even 'Relationships'.

I don't notice you ever being sympathetic to anyone Bags. Never!

I'm talking about the website as a whole. Not just "my day".