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Present for first grandchild too?

(36 Posts)
Nellie54 Wed 17-Feb-16 10:17:16

Definitely. Why not choose a tree or plant which you could plant together?
Always works with mine.

sweetcakes Wed 17-Feb-16 10:12:59

I agree with the new baby thing a pressie for the sibling so they don't feel lonely but I won't be draw into the whole birthday thing if it's not their birthday they receive nothing I'm sorry but I've seen parents not only spoil the birthday child but also its siblings too under the heading of oh bless I can't leave them out to !! And grandparents do the same to it didn't happen years age why the sudden change

NanaandGrampy Wed 17-Feb-16 10:07:48

There is always a gift from the new arrival to the older child. But we don't give a gift as well.

We also don't give unbirthday gifts instead we explain right from the start that it's not their special day so they don't get gifts , BUT for the first couple of years they do get to help the birthday child unwrap their gifts. Once the birthday child is able to unwrap on their own then the older child doesn't help.

It's never been a problem and they all look forward to their own special day.

Albangirl14 Wed 17-Feb-16 10:05:48

I have a 3 year old grand daughter and she loves sticker books and cutting and sticking activities so I think giving time and the things needed to do something together would be helpful when everyone is looking after the new baby and Mum. She does love dressind up as well!

Daffonanna Wed 17-Feb-16 10:00:30

As they're all into books and stories we usually give the older child a book that they can "read" to the younger sibling . We have a lovely photo of our 2 year old grandson showing his baby brother a simple book of animal pictures and making all the noises . Now they're older he still reads to him .

Lupatria Wed 17-Feb-16 09:53:54

i believe in treating my grandaughters all alike. when my daughter had her second i gave a present to both of them - the same when my son's wife had their second.

not only that i tend to give an "unbirthday" present to the one not having a birthday when giving the birthday girl her present [does that sentence make sense?].

that saves any jealousy over the birthday girl getting everything and the other one getting nothing.

fortunately i didn't get that as my son was born on my daughter's 3rd birthday so we had presents galore on that day and every year until they both left home.

Cosafina Wed 17-Feb-16 09:51:00

Isn't it a joy, coming here? Congrats on your second DGC! flowers

vsitting Tue 16-Feb-16 12:24:43

Thanks! First time I've done this Chat and sort of surprised to have such prompt and nice replies. My 3yr old grand daughter is also into dressing up so I'm off to the shops!

Alea Tue 16-Feb-16 12:21:00

Absolutely! Lego/Duplo/ dressing up outfit/puzzle whatever your DGC is into.
Babies don't need a lot of fuss, bother, attention or gifts, but we do it because we love welcoming a new baby. Imagine the feelings of the older DGC who suddenly feels left out!

grannyactivist Tue 16-Feb-16 12:16:16

Congratulations vsitting on your new grandchild. Yes I would (I did) give a little gift to the older grandchild. My three year old grandson is really into dressing up at the moment and there are lots of lovely, cheap costumes in the shops to choose from for girls and boys.

vsitting Tue 16-Feb-16 12:10:50

Would you give a present to your first grandchild on the arrival of the second? I am inclined to as I would be giving a small gift for the newborn but not sure what to give a 3 yr old too. Any ideas?