New baby

Jayney715 don't worry about this. So many people have reassured you that each DGC brings their own love and I so agree. I have 6 and love them all for what they are: special little personalities which hook me in the more I see of them. I had 4 children of my own so was used to sharing that ever expanding pot of love. And I had no choice as I started with twins!

Having said that, DGS1 will always be special. I was at his birth. DD was young and a lone mum. They lived with us for the first 2 years of his life and I have helped raise him for 9 years.

But I have a special relationship with them each of them. And there will still be lots of love for any others that come to join them.

Call myself Grammargran?? 'All of WHOM are loved ...... '!

Too true Ann4 but of course, 'little bit special' doesn't mean 'little more loved'. We have eight grandchildren, all of which are loved to smithereens, but nothing replicates that feeling when you take your first grandchild in your arms .......

I totally agree with that. Our first grandson arrived and I fell in love all over again. I played with him as I never played with my own children and the bond between us became very strong. When grandson number two arrived I felt differently towards him yet loved him so much all the same. It is a very special relationship one has with ones grandchildren - if you're lucky!

How lovely ginny. Enjoy those first precious cuddles.

My second Grandson was born yesterday evening and I won't see him until this afternoon. My heart is already bursting with love for him. If he brings me as much joy as DGS1 then I'm a lucky lucky lady.

I have just one grandchild;he is adorable and he was adopted.

I would say, love, love, love all your grandchildren with all your might so their lives are full of your love.

I worried having my own second child, but love them equally.
I also have a second GC due in a few weeks too, and because of how I feel about my own children I feel I shall feel the same about the new baby. My only fear is not being able to give it the same amount of attention as I did with first GC!

I have 3 DGC, two boys followed by a girl. I love them all to bits in equal measures but the one that pulls at my heart strings is the middle one. He always has hand me downs- clothes, toys, bikes etc. I am determined he is going to get his own new bike for his next birthday in two weeks time. He is also a bit of a rebel and lives in his own world so gives us great amusement at times. Enjoy them all - they grow up so quickly.

I have 4gc have never worried about not loving them there's plenty to go round ENJOY? ?

I was a late Nanna, thinking it wasn't to be. Our GD came along at 31 weeks and was so tiny and vulnerable. We looked after her from 6months old and loved ever second. When she was 3 her little brother was born and I too wondered how I could love so intensely again but I did. I love my two GC so much, they are totally different little characters but equally have a piece of my heart.

Indinana is absolutely right. I have three grandchildren and I adore all of them. I would like more but don't think it will happen. Be thankful, there are those who would love grandchildren but for whatever reason have not got any.

My first grandchild was actually a step grand-daulghter - but I was hands on from the very start and she became very dear to me. I now have 2 more beautiful blood grand daughters whom I love dearly - but the one I practiced on at being a Granny for the first time will always be just that little bit special. From her I first learned the amazing joy at being a grand mother and the pleasures it could bring.

Indinana, I wept quietly inside for worry about loving the second AND for my own selfishness when I was pregnant with my second child. I felt that my poor little first-born was about to have her whole world turned upside down because her father and I had been "greedy" enough to want more children. When the baby was born, my daughter saw him as "hers" and loved him to distraction (and so did I). I felt very humble.

I now make a point of telling this to my children and friends' children when they are pregnant with the second child. Almost all have said they felt like this and hadn't told anyone. I think it's a relief to know we can all love ALL our children, and given time (and contact) we will love all our grandchildren too.

Each of the grandchildren are special, each different but loved equally.
Sit back and enjoy them all.

I felt just the same but GS2 has turned out to be so gorgeous! It took me a whilr to get to know him because I didn't look after him till he was a year old and I'd had GS1 from the age of 6 months, but he is just irresistable. Even DH, who doesn't care for small children at all, is very fond of him. GS3 is also very sweet, although quite different from his cousins. I really couldn't say that I love one better than the others because they've each got different qualities and they're each perfect in their own way.

When our first child is born I think we all feel overwhelmed with love for them. Those of us who have a second wonder how we can possibly find more love for the new baby, but we do. I have three sons and couldn't love them more as each is special and loved equally. So in the blink of an eye, or so it seems, I have four grandchildren. All special and all loved equally. Don't worry it will happen.

I've six grandchildren. The oldest is 22 and the youngest six. I love all of them, but my very favourite is the fourth grandchild...... So yes, you CAN love the later editions just as much as the first!

Another topic but even though I am now on my fourth cat over the years, I haven't felt the same overwhelming love for the other cats which I had for my first pet. I was worried when I was pregnant with my second child that my relationship would never be the same again with my first born who had had my full attention. 30 years plus down the line my older daughter is still jealous of her sister but that feeling is not reciprocated by the younger one. I can only accept that the love for each one is different, not necessarily stronger or weaker.

I felt the same as you when I was expecting my second child, it terrified me, but three children and six grandchildren later I can assure you that you have more than enough love to go around. I have another grandchild due in March, and I can't wait. Just chill and enjoy.

Love is a very wonderful thing. It just grows. As you have more GC to love the love grows to encompass all of them.

My GC have queried if I can love them all so I explain that love grows as each new GC comes along so I have plenty of love for all of them. Then we have a big hug and get on with life feeling loved.

Enjoy your new love for you new CG.

DD2 is expecting 2nd baby in 8 weeks time. When I was with her this morning she was in bits, worrying that she won't love this baby as much as their 2 year old. I keep telling her all will be fine but her hormones are playing havoc. I remember feeling the same way during my 2nd pregnancy.
DD2 had a little boy just 3 weeks ago (her 1st) I adore him already. The love just keeps coming!

I think I felt the same when the second GC was expected - not excited etc - but I couldn't have been more wrong - once they are born and later start developing their own character, you will find that you love them just as much. You don't run out of love - your heart gets bigger to love them all.

My mother-in-law told me that babies bring their own love with them when I expressed concern about my ability to love our second child as much as our first and I discovered this to be true as Lullydully suggests. However, circumstances and personalities (ours and the children's) do come into it. For example we know we will always have a special relationship with our granddaughter as we helped bring her for the first 3 years of her life. We now live far away and there is a little brother for her. We will only see them once a year for a short time from now on so it is unlikely that we will get to know the new little person so well. I'm not comfortable with Skype/Facetime so we'll just have to make the most of our time together and find ways of maintaining meaningful contact with them as they grow up.

Jayney think of all those poor ladies who would dearly love to be in your positiion, but for some reason their offspring have not been able to conceive.
You will not only get hugs and love from one but two.

I have two but one is only three and lives in NZ with my son and daughter-in-law. So I am more like a face on Skype, as she is often with her other grandma. Both daughters-in-law have trouble furtilizing, so it seems they will keep to one each, which is not a shame as my dear husband died a few years ago.