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What's your idea of good manners?

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feetlebaum Wed 28-Oct-15 16:40:18

ITMA's Mrs Mopp - so very long ago - said her friend was a gentleman - "He always said 'Pardon' before he took his boots orf"...

Sorry - coudn't help thinking of that!

@LullyDully - oh yes, the folk who just sweep through. ignoring Muggins, i.e., you... I have been known to mutter, mezzo-forte, "Don't mention it..."

Bellanonna Wed 28-Oct-15 16:23:15

It's consideration for others, really. As said above, if someone ignores a held door, or my standing aside to let them pass, I always say " you're welcome" and to be fair they often turn back and apologise. Probably in another world in a hurry. I also get cross if drivers don't acknowledge my letting them pass. Brings out the bad language in me.

mollie Wed 28-Oct-15 16:08:57

Good manners do matter and cost nothing. I don't understand why anyone should think otherwise.

LullyDully Wed 28-Oct-15 16:07:06

It's about making people feel valued and comfortable.

There is a whole area of utter rudeness around mobile phones. I can not begin to think why people on trains think you would like to listen in to their fascinating conversations.

Please and Thank you are so basic. I hate holding a door for someone who ignores me. I always say " Thank you" to try to jog them......never works but makes me feel better

glassortwo Wed 28-Oct-15 15:37:25

All the usual, but when I was at work one that got me riled every time was when having a telephone conversation with someone and they hang up without saying goodbye, just cut the line.

ninathenana Wed 28-Oct-15 15:30:32

I agree with all of the above. Please and thankyou being the most important in my view.

mollie Wed 28-Oct-15 15:21:02

There's an article in today's Guardian discussing rudeness. The writer gives a lot of valid examples but when it comes to being reminded of her own behaviour by friends she calls it being 'spirited' and demands the rules be re-written.

Well, I think checking your messages at the dinner table is rude. I think pushing in in a queue is rude. And I think not putting your hand over your mouth when you yawn or cough is also bad manners. And not thanking someone for their help is also bad manners - although my OH's 'busy, busy' boss thinks it a sin to text 'thanks' because 'the person receiving the text might stop to check the message and miss a train' for example...personally, I think anyone who stops to check messages when rushing for a train is an idiot but there you go...