Nightbirds

Separate rooms.

No question, separate rooms. Or I'd be guilty of murder!

Definitely!!
I don't understand the man, if you look so sweet lying there. Then just leave you and gaze in wonder I'm not surprised your cross.

"You look so sweet lying there it seems a shame not to wake you", if you ask me is a selfish statement on his part.

I find it difficult to get back to sleep once woken too. I tend to stay resting there, realise that to me rest is useful too, and then I tend to go back to sleep.

But being woken at 2am and not getting back to sleep at all is bad.

My husband is given my sleep rules, and if he doesnt do them, he is reminded until he does. He realises how important my sleep is.
He also knows that things dont function around the house if I have missed large chunks of sleep, and he suffers by that, so he is careful to try and follow my sleep rules[in my case, dont leave lights on, creep around quietly, dont bang doors].

If I dont get proper sleep, he has to get his own breakfast[he used to often have a cooked breakfast], I will get muddled re business stuff, he cant ask me difficult business questions as no point whatsoever, lunch will be light etc, so basically he knows that it is in his interests to help me sleep!

Does your husband not suffer at all if you have hardly any sleep?

You clearly need to draw up a list of sleep rules, Luckygirl

And penalties for if the rules are broken.

I'd hate (at the moment anyway!) to have a separate from DH but, if one of us should wake up, we take a book and use a spare bed. Unless there is a pressing reason to wake at the normal time, we then sleep late.

Buy 2 or 3 cheap alarm clocks set them to go off at various times during the night and when he's nodded off you sneak into the spare room! That'll teach him!

naughty Lona!

How does he wake you? I am sorry if that is a bit personal, but it could make a huge difference to the whole scenario.

You are so right jings!

See, I did wonder but had the delicacy not to ask!

And I have the delicacy not to answer! Suffice to say it is possible to have too much of a good thing!

He would break his heart if I suggested separate rooms; he really would. He's being very nice this morning - well, it is my birthday! - and let me sleep in till 10.

Wow! Happy birthday Lg!

Good grief, I'm definitely getting old,
I hadn't even thought of IT

Many happy returns Luckygirl.

Happy Birthday Luckygirl

Have a great birthday Luckygirl

Your DH sounds pretty selfish, tho. Haven't I seen on other threads that you are not well? In any case, he should have a bit more consideration for you.

Rather than decamp to another room totally, maybe you could just leap out of bed and clear off when the situation rears its head (as it were), maybe throwing a few objects, or at least expletives, as you go!

If he breaks his heart about that, it might cause him to reflect a bit.
At the moment he's getting things all his own way and sees no reason to change.

Happy Birthday, LG. I hope you get a good night's sleep!

He's OK FarNorth. He has Parkinsons and some of his waking me up relates to that - it is not all unbridled passion! My problem is that once I am woken, I cannot get back to sleep again.

Happy Birthday Luckygirl!