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PRINTMISS Sun 19-Jul-15 07:56:21

Our lovely son was taken into hospital on Friday - he was bleeding both ends. He was absolutely terrified! He refused point blank to go in the ambulance, and the staff where he lives were trying to persuade him. One of them telephoned me in the hope I could help, but when I arrived he was in a terrible state, and past reasoning with. His blood pressure was on the floor and there was a very real likely hood that he would die. It was impossible to give him a sedative because his heart rate was fluctuating. Everything was done to try to get him into the ambulance, his social worker was called, and in the end the police, because be is a vulnerable person who was being difficult and needed special care. In the end they managed to get him out of the house, then eventually on to the trolley where they had to strap him down and then hand-cuff him. I am devastated that my beautiful happy son had to be treated like this, but I know it was necessary, and to be quite honest, the policemen and social worker were visibly upset. I keep seeing Robert lying on that trolley struggling against the straps and getting more and more upset. My husband is trying to be sensible about it, but is equally upset, fortunately I have a great daughter and son-in-law, and the staff who care for Robert treat us like their family - they too were really totally at a loss as to what to do. The staff at the hospital were beyond reproach, Robert had finally settled when he got there, but was still being difficult. Yesterday he was very sedated, they are keeping him that way for the moment, he is just frightened by all that is happening. I know I should not think like this, but I keep seeing our lovely son, who would not hurt a fly, being treated like a criminal with the hand cuffs and strapping, and although I know that it was for the best, I cannot help but feel that he feels like that too. Oh!, I am so upset that this happened to him, and now there is nothing I can do but sit beside him and hold his hand. I thought I would feel better writing it all down, but the tears are streaming down my face, and I really do not want my other half to see this, as it upsets him even more. I realise our son might die, but I hate what has happened, and that he might die hating us all for the way he has been treated.

MiniMouse Sun 19-Jul-15 14:03:17

Hopefully it will all just be a blur for your son. It sounds as though there was so much going on at the time that it would have been impossible to take it all in. How reassuring to learn of the reaction of the police and SWs. flowers

ginny Sun 19-Jul-15 13:33:59

How distressing for you all. I hope your son recovers well. flowers

Crow Sun 19-Jul-15 13:30:34

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Katek Sun 19-Jul-15 13:27:28

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Riverwalk Sun 19-Jul-15 13:22:52

I have a huge lump in my throat reading your post.

How very traumatizing for you Printmiss to witness your dear son being strapped-down and handcuffed flowers

Try not to think of him being treated like a criminal rather that they had to resort to such measures to ensure he got to hospital. I hope that Robert is responding to treatment and on the mend.

It sounds perverse but I was heartened to read that the social workers and police were visibly upset at the situation ...... it shows the basic humanity and kindness of these two often-maligned professions.

annodomini Sun 19-Jul-15 13:12:35

Printmiss, you must be exhausted and traumatised. I hope someone is looking after you too. x x x x

Alygran Sun 19-Jul-15 13:12:12

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HappyNan1 Sun 19-Jul-15 13:04:49

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soontobe Sun 19-Jul-15 12:59:02

What a horrible thing to happen. sad

harrigran Sun 19-Jul-15 12:58:05

Thinking of you PRINTMISS. You understand that they did what was necessary and not treating your son was not an option. Take care of yourself flowers

soop Sun 19-Jul-15 12:07:46

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ninathenana Sun 19-Jul-15 11:55:25

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nightowl Sun 19-Jul-15 11:53:46

Thinking of you, and hoping Robert recovers from this. You did what you had to do as a mum, out of love flowers

Nonnie Sun 19-Jul-15 11:47:38

No words are adequate, just heartfelt thoughts sent your way.

Anne58 Sun 19-Jul-15 11:43:46

Thinking of you, and all the family.

Anya Sun 19-Jul-15 11:33:49

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shysal Sun 19-Jul-15 11:26:17

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TriciaF Sun 19-Jul-15 11:18:22

Such an awful thing for all of you to have to go through, obviously you and his Dad feel his pain.
Hoping and praying that the hospital can help to stabilise him.

POGS Sun 19-Jul-15 10:49:05

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baubles Sun 19-Jul-15 10:32:37

I'm terribly sad to hear this. How awful for you to see your son suffer so Printmiss

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Marmight Sun 19-Jul-15 10:30:27

flowers You have been a wonderful Mum to Robert and done everything possible for him. Sadly, this distressing incident had to happen in order to get him to hospital to be treated and now he is having good care. Take care of yourself too...

henetha Sun 19-Jul-15 10:30:00

I am terribly sorry and will hope and pray that your son will soon be much better. My heart goes out to you and your family.

loopylou Sun 19-Jul-15 10:23:42

Oh Printmiss, how awful for you all. Hopefully he won't remember what happened because he was so very ill, clearly the emergency services had little or no choice as the situation was so critical.
His struggling and confusion could have been been caused by the blood loss affecting his ability to rationalise what was going on, in which case he probably won't remember it at all. I do hope he recovers quickly.

Sending you all my best wishes and ((hugs)) x

Coolgran65 Sun 19-Jul-15 10:17:43

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janeainsworth Sun 19-Jul-15 10:16:37

sorry that should be 'you've spent'