Breast fed DGS causing havoc!

It was the spin dryer for my first born!

My DD, due in a couple of weeks, has bought one of these after someone recommended it to her. It is shown as being held against the baby's ear while being cuddled, to settle them to sleep. My DD was told it can also be placed in or next to the crib.
I used to leave my DS to cry when I knew there was nothing wrong, he wasn't hungry and so on. I would turn on the vacuum cleaner outside his room and that sent him off in minutes!

I recognise this
DD was the same, some days she seemed permanently latched on!

If DGS is growing so quickly perhaps he's hungry, mum being tired does affect the milk IMO- that's why I gave up breastfeeding my DS at 2 months, from which point he was fine.

I agree with Nelliem, but it isn't easy to let them cry.

Definitely try a dummy, it worked for DGS.

Iam64 - I think that is the principle of controlled crying, only it now has this posh name to validate it.

KatyK I wish my daughter understood that you can leave them to fuss a bit and that they don't need to be held all the time, even in one of her vast selections of baby slings.

My two managed to grow up as happy well attached children. But who am I to comment? I am just their mother who brought them up.
There is no alternative but to keep schtum.

I'm with when, a dummy or a drink of water. Sometimes they just want a comfort suck!

My youngest was a lot like the baby you describe Katek. When she woke me at 2 am, having had a good feed at midnight I suggested we move her across the corridor into her 3 year old sister's room and that when she woke my husband went in to sooth her. No lights, no talking, just a minimal stroke/reassurance - I kept out because the smell of me would have been enough. She was sleeping through within 5 nights of this new regime. She was a big baby, didn't need feeding at night and it had become a comfort type habit.

My sympathy Katy my youngest DGS (who we live with) is 16 months and has been the same from day 1, he fed every 1hr day and night but we discovered he was tongue tied which made it difficult for him to feed (was missed at birth) and had to wait to have it corrected. We all assumed that he would settle after it was snipped, he did improve slightly but not much even after introducing solids. He now only has a bedtime breast feed.

But he slept from 7 till 12 awake till 1 then slept till 6 last night and that is the first time ever, DD was wandering around in a daze this morning after having so much sleep. So I hope your DIL doesnt have to wait 16 months.
No suggestions other than its amazing what you deal with when you have to

When babies are clearly well fed and don't need such frequent feeding, offering water and/or a dummy and not chatting to them can sometimes help them settle back down. Maybe for them to work out a bit of a rota so one of them can get a good sleep, too?

Oh, how many of us will recognise this scenario, both as parents and grandparents!

There is no easy answer as every baby is different I have to confess that when my second arrived there were times when I was so tired that I let her cry - I just fell back to sleep. It did not seem to do her any harm - she is a chirpy well-balanced adult now.

DDs have done something called "controlled crying" with theirs, which frankly sounds much the same as leaving them to cry. Try googling it. If he's had plenty to eat and is not ill or in pain, it will probably do him no harm at all.

Good luck to all.