Advice needed....son having issues with food

No, it's not a good look, and it's aging too. I really can understand your concern, more men become anorexic with every passing year. It's almost as if they see it as a challenge, especially since some idiot said that we will all live longer if we only eat 600 calories per day.

11 stone sounds right for his height. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Perhaps it's just a case of getting use to the new him.

He devised his own weight loss plan Elegran so we have nobody he trusts to create a recovery plan. Apparently he's stabilised at just over 11 stone Jings, but I can't swear to that. I don't think he's lying to me, I hope not. We only saw them two days ago so don't think work was an issue at that point as he was/is on holiday. Jane - he seems fit enough as he's running all these miles but, oddly enough, he's developed the same cold fingers (Raynaud's?) as his father. Don't think it's so much the weight loss which is making him look so unwell, it's the complete change in musculature....pointed collar bones showing, that sort of thing.

I think that's normal when people lose weight in a hurry, they do look dreadful at first. DBH lost weight in a similar fashion and now only eats around 2000 calories a day, as he is a keen athlete. He is 5'11". I preferred him when he was cuddlier, he is only half the man I married. In fact he is probably a good two stone lighter than he was when the photo on my profile page was taken. However, he has loads of energy and feels fitter. I notice he feels the cold more though. I would suggest that your son needs to be on at least 2500. I can see why you are so worried though, I was. It took us a while to get used to sorting him out a new eating routine, his change of menu affected the whole family and still does, he is very set in his eating habits now. He has also virtually given up alcohol, which hasn't done much for our local social life!

I think it is a recognised thing now that men who eat slightly less calories than they need do, in fact, live longer.

Is he still losing weight? I would worry if he is, but if his weight has stabilised then maybe he is fine as he is. Does he become unwell easily?

You say he lives 100 miles away from you. Could you have seen him at a time when he was tired, perhaps with work?

Find a dietician who will redraw the guidelines now that he has lost the wieght he started the whole thing to lose? He clearly trusted whoever drew up his original weight-loss diet, so perhaps he will not feel guilty if he follows a less strict - but still well-defined - daily regime.

Admitting that he has a problem is the first step. He is over that hurdle.

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