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janeainsworth Sat 08-Nov-14 21:08:32

Bags I said I didn't like nurses calling me darling.
I wasn't complaining, though.
Surely one is allowed to express likes and dislikes without being accused of complaining.

Atqui Sat 08-Nov-14 21:06:52

Sometimes I think you are just too good to be true Bags

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 21:04:50

I'm going to read about Christmas bling now.

Ana Sat 08-Nov-14 21:03:42

That's OK darlin'! grin

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 21:02:39

Don't respond then, ana. I don't mind smile

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 21:02:13

OK, I apologise for sounding off. It just seems like complaining to me when people say "I don't like..." and when the word patronising is mentioned and the phrase "as bad as".

Ana Sat 08-Nov-14 21:00:20

Very hard to respond when you're so keen on your multiple posts, bags...hmm

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 20:58:14

In short, such expressions are nearly always used in a friendly way in my experience. Maybe some of you are just too up tight about your precious dignity when dignity isn't at issue at all.

Ana Sat 08-Nov-14 20:58:01

Most of us on this thread are not complaining, bags.

I agree that all 'terms of endearment' are really unobjectionable unless said in a sneery, patronising way.

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 20:56:34

Plus what pogs said.

thatbags Sat 08-Nov-14 20:55:45

Wish people'd stop complaining.

Pal doesn't mean pal when it's used like that.
Darlin' doesn't mean darlin when it's used like that.
and so on and so forth ad nauseam.

Listen to the meaning—which I think is usually an awkward kind of "I don't know what the heck to call you but I feel I have to call you something and this is what everyone calls me"—not the words. It's just padding in a slightly awkward social setting, usually one that is never going to happen again between those particular people.

Pal is Glasgow
My darling is Wrexham (and no doubt other places)
Luv is various parts of Yorkshire and Lancashire
Pet is Newcastle and thereabouts
Hen is Edinburgh and Dundee

etc

POGS Sat 08-Nov-14 20:54:54

I have absolutely no issue with anybody calling me love, my duck, dear, darling, pet etc. etc.

I know some GN have said on occassion they are upset by it but I remember my dad in hospital last year saying to me " The nurses are lovely and they call me my love or darling and I feel you are here with me". sad

Marmight Sat 08-Nov-14 20:46:48

I don't mind as no one else calls me Darlin' now, but I really don't like being addressed as 'Pal' by a yoof young enough to be my grandson shock

yogagran Sat 08-Nov-14 20:12:42

I don't mind as long as it's done in a friendly, chatty way. It's far better than being ignored

Atqui Sat 08-Nov-14 19:55:31

I agree Jings..... less patronising than Dear

Nonu Sat 08-Nov-14 19:51:44

GLAM you are right,
Shall we have a small wine together ??

glammanana Sat 08-Nov-14 19:45:40

Hi Nonu x I don't mind at all really as OH calls me "Darlin'" I think it depends who is saying it and how you take it yourself far better than being called something else I think hmm

janeainsworth Sat 08-Nov-14 19:41:36

Pompa I don't mind as long as it's a bloke grin

I don't like being called darlin' by nurses. It seems condescending, somehow, whether they are male or female.

Ana Sat 08-Nov-14 19:40:52

Oh yes, I'd forgotten that one - but no one seems to dare call me that (yet)!

Nonu Sat 08-Nov-14 19:40:44

You"re a card you Pompa , you make me giggle , hope you have the same effect on Ms Pompa !!
wink

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 08-Nov-14 19:39:20

I don't think darlin' is as bad as dear. A female of any age could be called darlin'. 'Dear' they save for the ones they consider to be little old ladies. Grrr!

Ana Sat 08-Nov-14 19:37:25

I don't mind at all! Love, darlin', hun, bring 'em on - and one young man in our local Asda seems to address everyone as 'my lovely'! smile

pompa Sat 08-Nov-14 19:29:48

Doesn't bother me, unless its a bloke !

As they say, call me anything you like, so long as it's not late for dinner.

janeainsworth Sat 08-Nov-14 19:29:08

Depends who's doing the addressing, obviously wink

Nonu Sat 08-Nov-14 19:26:32

How do you feel as a slighty older person, being addressed as Darlin"?

This seems to be happening more and more, I feel a bit ambivalent!!

smile