Knickers

My mother said some years ago that my stepfather always helps to choose her underwear. I remember feeling quite nauseous at the idea. Ex used to buy me underwear sometimes, it was always ghastly. I asked him for a nightdress once, and he chose something the golden girls would have been happy in. I had just had a baby - that was when I realised that I had somehow migrated from uber-sexy underwear to old-lady nightdresses simply by having a baby.

On rare occasions I have looked at clothes with DH present. The trouble is that he then encourages me to buy something and when I get home I realise what a hideous mistake it was! I'm then stuck with having to find a time to wear it (Like getting the dreadful vase out when the great aunt visits)

This reminds me of the film Annie Hall - Alvy presents Annie with a birthday present of sexy lingerie - she says "This is more like a present for you!"

Well, you know the old tradition, Nankate. If something is a gift from a man, he can always ask you to take it off. So the only garment an unmarried lady should accept from a man is a pair of - gloves!

Quite right too, NanKate. The very idea in the 1960s!

A boyfriend in the 1960s bought me a quite a modest nightdress from Neatawear.

My easy going dad, was incandescent with outrage at the gift.

I wouldn't dream of taking DH lingerie shopping with me. He is ver useful however, when out clothes shopping. He has impeccable taste and a very good eye for colour, much better than me. I trust his judgement, and have had many compliments about the clothes he has chosen for me. As for men choosing underwear, err no.

Last year just after Christmas I was at the returns department in M&S and an old guy in front of me was returning a red and black lace underwear set comprising of bra and skimpy knickers. My mind went into overdrive, was it bought for his wife, lover or just a fantasy thing. The mind (my mind) boggled!

Jane I grind my teeth so much my dentist has insisted I have a thing that boxers use to wear at night

My first exH bought me beautiful La Perla underwear and thought nothing of going into a specialist shop for it, also my second exH bought me lovely lingerie too.
My son doesn't think twice about buying anything from undies to tampons etc for his wife either.

My long term male 'friend' absolutely loves shopping for clothes with me although I don't like anything he picks!

The men's dept in M&S is always full of women, picking underwear for men.

I just assumed he was complaining about the price!

He was saying PRETTY[ as in attractive] " dear." as in your 9 & 10 words
Could have said :-

Darling
Honeybunch
Honeybun
Sweetheart
Sweetcheeks
Petal
Angel
Sweetie
Sweetums

I will leave it now, as I puffed out thinking of all these terms of endearment.

Anyway I am going out now, things to buy , places to go , you know how it is for us gals!!

kittylester . Strangely I somehow find that more acceptable.

Starling, I don't think we know who was paying - she might be buying them for him!

Oh. Was he saying "pretty, dear" as in "nice, love" or "pretty dear" as in "quite expensive"?

I think it is sad when a woman has no independent money and has to have things paid for by a man.

ROSE, your first paragraph, I never thought of that . Perhaps when the bloke said to woman"These are pretty", he meant for himself.

.... very good!

Good point about the washing too.....

As an aged Lothario, I must agree with henetha...

There was a man lingering around the lingerie department in M&S when I went recently, very off-putting; I said to an assistant who was helping me, 'I do wish he would go away, he is putting me off'. She said that he was probably choosing something for himself.

The only reason DH might venture in that department is to say 'for goodness' sake, are you going to be there all day, I want some lunch*.

Just and say nothing! Try not to grind your teeth while you're doing it!

Over protective. Darling daughter has just thrown out a jar of MY JAM because it's been open since she last came and not in the fridge!
She's now decided that she doesn't like and has never liked the brand of egg I buy. I've bought them for years!

Galen we had to have the safety netting too! What are these DDs like?

harri