Geriatric??

If you have to be devious to persuade him to spend money on something you want then either :-

1) You have made a habit of overspending the household money in the past, which is still remembered and a repeat is being resisted. Try being less greedy in how fast you spend it, and he will be more likely to feel generous. And tell the truth about what you want the money for.

2) You chose a skinflint who believes in keeping women barefoot and pregnant. Bad choice. Either live with it and work for your own luxuries or dump him and find a millionaire.

3) You like to be on top of the relationship, and exploit his needs to your own advantage, while feeling contemptuous of the poor sap. Make the most of the moment and screw all you can out of him, because this worm will turn and replace you with an equal partner who enjoys his lovemaking as much as he does hers and gives him love as well as sex.

Agree with Nonnies earlier post. My DH and I don't have a lot of money to spare but what we have we share. Neither of us have to ask/persuade each other for anything.

If someone aged 65 is described as geriatric how on earth would they describe my grandma who at 98 is a virtual dinosaur.

my grandma could almost be someone aged 65's grandma too !

Did you write that merlot ? I like it

I`m outta here

So are we geriatrics,
Do our ailments fit the bill
Cos our joints and muscles play tricks
And we have to take a pill?

Does it give away our secrets
When we can't recline with ease
And we struggle to stand upright
On account of dodgy knees?

Does the geriatric label
Make us bristle with dismay
When we feel we've more to offer
In a senile 'senior' kind of way?

Are we're heading for the scrap heap
Where the geriatrics dwell?
Well, I know if I end up there
That you'll be there as well.

I first heard the word 'geriatric' used to describe me by a young male accountant who worked with me. I was aged approx 50 at the time and continued to work until aged 65, leaving then for family reasons. I can truthfully say that most, if not all of the ageism which I encountered in those last years came, not from employers but from employees who by and large will not accept anyone over thirty-five. It's now five years since I retired. Is it any better now?

When I took my DGS2 to a Bounce and Rhyme session at the local library yesterday, the enthusiastic young man welcoming us to the gathering of young mums/dads and babies belatedly checked himself when asking "Would you.....would anyone like a seat?". And there was me thinking I could pass as an older yummy mummy...... At least he didn't offer me a drop of WD40 for the audibly creaking knees when I got up afterwards.

Merlotgran I am still laughing at you stuck in your deck chair.

You should see me trying to get up from the floor. I find getting up and down off my knees a tortuous experience, so who am I to laugh !

As have moron, cretin and imbecile already, all precise and respectable medical terms when they were coined, but devalued by those who devalued the conditions they defined.

Agree with you Jingl about it just being a word, and it doesn't bother me.
But language changes all the time, words which started off being perfectly acceptable become beyond the pale because of the way they are used.

Spastic is also a medical term, but who would use it in polite conversation now. The Spastics Society had to change their name because it had assumed a perjorative meaning.
Geriatric is following the same path.

Ha Ha, jingl. If a young girl were to ask me if I could manage a deck chair, I would suggest she come back in a couple of hours when I'm trying to get out of it!

It is always simply a medical term. Only a word. Why worry?

When a very kind young French girl on the beach yesterday, asked my daughter if she thought I could manage a deck chair or did I want a more upright kind of chair, we both (dd and me) did find it very funny.

When my MIL lay dying in a nursing home, a lady who'd been very friendly with her came in most upset, particularly because MIL was "just a young 'un". It was so touching. MIL was 93 and her friend 100.

Phoenix - another advantage of "older" employees is that they / we take far less time off for illness, than younger people.

If you are desperate for money it would be worth taking a job with shifts that you don't like, without letting the employer know that, then after a bit some better shifts might become available or you might get another job; another piece of info is that, apparently, a job applicant who is already in a job is more likely to be successful than someone who is not.

Go gettem, girl!!

This debate reminds me of Bercows wife, her related seducing of her husband before she went on telly, and look at him what have we let ourselves in for with him for a speaker.

Good post

Silverfish you have some strange, some would say nasty opinions of women and of men. I am sorry that your life is not as you would like it to be, but dont criticise and make snarky comments about the rest of us. Deeply offensive, not funny, and not contributing to debate. As to the original honest debate that was started.....I think that many of the terms used to describe older people can be a bit open to interpretation, I am in my mid fifties and think I am early middle aged, but I suppose that somebody of 30 would think I am late middle aged. Mum aged 83 talks about 'old folk' as if she is not included in the group, and gets irritated when patronised.

I have never, ever in my whole life used sex as a bargaining gambit to get or not get anything. No, not once. I would never demean myself in that way and that is an honest statement. DH and I have an equal relationship and the subservience to another that goes with needing to use sex as weapon is alien to our relationship.

My experiences of both genders through out my life is that they are much the same, they come nice, they come nasty, they come clever, intelligent, stupid, less bright. The full range of types is found in both genders. i have also come across those that continually run down their own gender or the opposite gender and men and women who think flaunting their sexuality is how to make their way through life and to be honest I avoid them. they are boring.

Standard procedure when a bored poster feels in need of getting a bit of excitement from the forum and can't think of anything interesting to post about, Nonnie. I suspect Silverfish gets bored very fast and depends on winding up the threads for entertainment.

If Silverfish wants to regale us with her sexual transactions that is up to her, but my (very different) love life will remain private, thank you.

Charly

Nonu me too! Why do some people make life so complicated?

silverfish , your post of 22.32 Golly gosh , Not applicable in my case, if I want anything I just go and buy it I DON"T have to ASK anyone!

Well expressed Nonnie.

Silver I believe you are in the minority on here and should recognise that.

I also would never use sex to get anything from Mr N, I don't need to. We have an adult relationship where each has put and continues to put different things into our marriage. It surprises me that you seem to think contributions are only about money when there are so many aspects to a marriage.

We have one bank account and never quarrel about money. Each of us has put in every penny we earned and now get from pensions and we use it for the marriage not the individual. Smallish amounts we each just spend, larger amounts we discuss. Simple.

Wasn't there a film about a young couple and an older man offered a large quantity of money for sex with the girl? I forget the name of the film ,the stars and the amount of money. I think that is a tad geriatric. The film was set in Las Vegas?