Do you think they were right to ban him?

Yes, but the thing is, Your little GS probably wouldn't want to. This child obviously does.

So, it's different.

I think of myself as fairly liberal and do not object at all to someone else's little boy wearing dresses and high heels.

However, I have a GS about the same age and I definitely would not be happy for him to go to school dressed in a similar manner.

Definitely not!

I agree Bags. I think children are getting kinder. Perhaps a result of the anti-bullying teaching that has been in place for a while now?

There's a lot of taunting goes on I agree Ann60 often hidden from adults until a situation arises. The phrase 'children can be cruel' is true. Not all of course but it only takes a few.,

Sorry, but I really 'blame' mum and possibly older sisters who have encouraged this. The poor kid is the one who suffers in the end.

He has older sisters. I'm wondering whether there's a bit more to it than what his Mum says, perhaps he behaves like a bit of a spoilt brat mini-diva when he hits the playgroup dressed in his finery!

Thank you thatbags sadly my GD has not been so lucky with schoolmates and is currently a very troubled teenager in spite of all our efforts to boost her self confidence and selfworth. After a lot of pushing on our part we hope she is going to get counselling very soon.

Although the playgroup have come out of this badly, I cant help having a sneaking suspicion that his Mum is making something out of this, even if he does like to wear frocks, why does he have 100 of them? We had a little boy at my children's school who used to come to meet his big sister wearing a Snow White outfit ( he was pre-school) and nobody batted an eyelid. Bit uncomfortable with the idea of high heels and frocks to be honest, all that sparkling tackiness is a bit too gender specific for my taste, is this really how his Mum thinks girls dress? Dont like these kind of clothes on girls or boys.

I'm sorry your GD has had unhappy experiences, annsixty. The majority of children I know and have known are tolerant and kind-hearted and they do understand what their teachers (and, hopefully, their parents) teach them about not taunting others.

My GD is different from"the norm" and since she has been at school her teachers have tried to teach the other children to be kind and not tease her or stare and comment on her appearance.I can assure you that 10 years and three different schools later this has, more often than not, not been the case. She has been the subject of much taunting.Children who do not want to be kind never will be however much they are taught.

Whilst I agree with what has been said before I do have some concerns for when he is older - he will be known as the boy who wears dresses and could be bullied, I agree it could be an opportunity to teach that some people can be different but that is OK.

So what is he wearing to school? Is he going home to change? It just all sounds too silly to me. Mum could also dispense with the after school club and just let him wander round Next

they could do worse than reading the kids this book

Taking the story on face value only as I've no idea what lies behind the headline, I think a ban is OTT.

No doubt the child would grow out of it in time but children that age are very accepting, I can't see teasing by five year olds being an issue. It may be different if he is mixing with older children.

This episode is a classic lesson in How to Teach Prejudices when you think about it.

There are photographs of my dad wearing a dress as a toddler. Apparently that was common in the late twenties/early thirties before boys were potty confident. That's why there was talk of "breeching" them when they were deemed old enough for trousers.

The school should use this incident to teach children not to be cruel to those who are (or seem) different from the "norm". Sounds like an ideal scenario that they should use to their advantage instead of making a fuss. Daft buggers springs to mind again!!

I guess this child will work out that it's hard to play some of the games he wants in the frock and gradually drop off wearing it - if people have the good sense to take no notice and not draw attention to it. If he gets teased he will choose to stop it of his own accord. This fuss just magnifies a non-situation into something of importance - which it is not.

There should be no such thing as "gender-specific" clothes. Girls dress as boys (according to tradition) all the time and no-one bats an eyelid. I have forgotten when I last wore a skirt - and I wear jackets all the time.

High heels are a nonsense for anyone as far as I am concerned, but most children want to try them out. I can remember my (naked!) 5 year old GS trotting about in some high heels from his sister's dressing up kit - and very fetching he looked too! Fell over of course!

Can't help but feel that this is a case of a mum who wanted a girl and then had a boy who turned out to be pretty and is not averse to now getting a bit of 'celebrity' type fame [apologies to her if I'm wrong]. Also reckon that the child wouldn't be able to take part in any of the activities dressed like that. Bit concerned for the child but not necessarily because of the ban.

He should stick to wearing his dresses at home.He will always be remembered by the other children as the boy who wore dresses and will be teased and bullied by them later on.Children can be very cruel.

SOUTRA 14 , you were lucky, I wasn"t allowed heels till I was 18.

I agree with all that's been said.

Crossed posts, Soutra.

He is in school. It's the after-school playgroup that's won't have him back until he wears 'gender-appropriate' clothes. Agree about the shoes.

Ah "after school club"? Would have expected him to be in school uniform then. Don't children look so sweet in their tiny uniforms? Still looks like a non-story to me.