If you feel bullied

How odd! I wouldn't even have supposed that you and flea were one and the same, TOOBIG etc.

I don't think that many of us would go to the lengths of "using" a sick husband as a get out clause, Toobigfortheirboots. Isn't it just as likely that family considerations came first? Having been in a similar -ish situation with a "sick husband" I can assure you that my conversations on GN (with the greatest respect, GNetters) came somewhat further down my list of priorities at the time.
And as you have clearly changed your name in the meantime, we have no way of knowing what she said or did or how she offended.

Know the feeling!

And in all fairness to Flea.....we are not the same person.

I should have posted from my laptop but the appeal of my phone just being an arms length away was too hard to resist.

Oh I do that – hit the shift lock when aiming for the a and then type great lines of stuff in uppercase. And the punctuation goes wrong as well.

My apologies. I was replying to Absent.

No Agus, you would just be someone who mistakenly thought it was deliberate.

If you read the rules of GN (just a passing thought)

"What are the rules"
quote:

" When writing messages, please use the same courtesy you'd show
when speaking face to face with someone".

of course rules do get broken where ever you are.

Pleased to hear from you again flea

If I pointed out that putting your name in uppercase is the electronic equivalent of shouting it, would I be a bully?

????????

People can become forum bullies when being considered a popular poster (by some) goes to their head and they start to post whilst on some kind of roll or ego trip.

My bully was very skillful at what she did, an expert manipulator when confronted and not beyond mentioning a very sick husband by way of a get out clause for when she had gone too far.

Its a few months since she was last here, something came up and she flounced. Like all bullies she was a coward at heart.

Rockgran and merlot the deleted posts on this thread were someone wanting us to sign a petition. Unfortunately they chose to put it on about 10 different threads, so it was spamming.

Yes, Ariadne, and I think that sometimes things are not quite as straightforward as they might appear to the casual reader. There may be history between posters, or some posters might know each other very well and exchange banter which might appear to be excluding others.

GN seems far less 'cliquey' these days than it used to, thankfully.

It is indeed, Ariadne and it is so difficult to know in advance how someone will feel.

Just to add to the confusion - Galen Mussorgsky / via Strabinsky or Beethoven?

(I am not good at keeping up.)

Elegran you are so very right. But it is still all a matter of perception, I think; how it makes you feel?

It soon will not be worth posting on here. [shakes head and goes off to cook dinner]

My point exactly ..but more succinctly Elegran

Yes, I have noticed too that sometimes people get very annoyed at "being got at" when they have been doing the same thing themselves. Sauce for the goose and sauce but not sauce for the gander?

Simple jingle? No not you!

Too complicated for this simple soul.

Oh, i dunno jings. She has a point. I've noticed the same kind of thing more than once.

Oh lighten up penstemonn! Really.

I am trying hard not to add fuel to a dying fire but it does seem that because we cannot agree on a definition of bullying then there is always going to be tension.

I see some posts where people want to have their cake and to eat it. With one statement there is an implication that the poster finds sharp ripostes bullying but then are happy to jibe at other posters and add side remarks and emoticons directed at 'friends' in a rather cliquey fashion which appear to be directed against another poster.

This does not make me feel bullied but it does make me feel that there are double standards at work!