Thank you Movedalot.
So the words 'successful and a nanny' - almost as bad as 'Etonian' I can hear the scorn and prejudice from here- talk about prejudice! If a mother has a responsible and very time consuming job, with a long commute, and a child with a life-threatening condition, a nanny is the only safe solution. And it is a huge sacrifice, as a large part of salary has to go towards paying for nanny. So should I apologise for my daughter being so successful and wanting her children to be safe? I don't think so, thank you.
Why should one be 'ashamed' for having worked so hard and become a partner in a successful firm, and the only woman, the only woman with children too. And that is part of the problem in the UK now, being successful is a dirty word - never mind the fact they work so hard in the little spare time they have to support their state school and community acitivities, instead of opting out to the private system.
Agreed, people are not 'given' a council house- and that is the very point in fact. It is allocated according to need, at a much reduced rent compared to the market, and should not be considered as an allocation for life - but dependent as said above, on need. Organ donation is a relevant example of how need is decided upon and allocated.
So if you had the two groups in front of you and the decision to make about the allocation of that 3 bedroom house - the 50 year old single person, or the family with several children. Come on - come off the fence and make the decision. This is what councils have to decide day in, day out. In my book, it is a no brainer. Keeping families in bedsits whilst 50ish year olds stay in 3 bedroom family houses with gardens is not on.
And yes, life is not fair. If you are dependent on social help and benefits, you just won't have the same choices as people of independent means and house owners- that is just a fact of life.
BTW talking about those post war bungalows. One of my best friends in Leicester lives in one of those, 5 on one side of a grassed area and 5 on the other. Small lounge, small bedroom, tiny kitchen and the bathroom has been made into walking shower room for her OH as he has real mobility and other health issues. She has turned the communal gardens into a wonderful garden worthy of a top garden magazine- a haven of peace. Impossible to have any of her French family to visit, as it is so small - and if they come they have to stay in a b&b. She says it would be totally unfair to have a spare bedroom for the purpose, as families need the room so much more. Good on her.