My mother was in a very similar situation to Nfk's mother with cancer which had spread into her brain and her pelvis and was brilliantly and kindly nursed by staff in a local hospital. At one point, when she got a urinary infection, a keen young out-of-hours doctor wanted to put her on antibiotics and send her to the bigger hospital 20 miles away, but the experienced nurses in the ward (who had discussed all this with the family) refused to take his advice, and my mother died peacefully a few days later. Giving her more active treatment would have been wrong from all sorts of angles, and I know she would have refused it had she been able to. Resources should be used to treat those who can benefit from it, whatever age they are. Nfk,
. I hope your mother is as well looked-after as mine, and as pain-free.