What has happened to GN just lately?

The numbers thing was Bags's idea and a very good one too.

Agree about sometimes necessary to name change because of being 'outed' and suchlike.

"Tegan" (recently adopted by another poster) definitely leaves a good trail. (being a racehorse)

Come back GREATNAN. Or I will take over the jokes thread. And that wouldn't be good. No one would laugh.

when I would guess that she's fed up with being jumped on almost before she has finished posting, almost always by the same group of posters. (Is a group a clique or is that different?) Even strong-minded women can get pissed off. She's still registered so presumably she's just lying low.

I totally agree with Jodi, especially her very perceptive comment:

"It's not just the posters who seem to be always sniping, it's those who jump in to support them whether they are in the right or in the wrong that give them the power"

That is absolutely spot on.

Can't see anything changing anytime soon.

greatnan may be having weather problems and have no internet.

If JO7 keeps reincarnating at her current rate she will soon catch up with the 14th Dalai Lama.

Jodi said ' I am a professional woman and am not used to this kind of playground behaviour ' Every Gransnetter is a valued member, whether you are professional or not should not make one iota of difference IMHO.

petallus You and Jodi are so right about some posters automatically jumping to the defence of specific other posters regardless of what has actually been posted. in many instances, it looks as if they either haven't read or haven't understood a post but ignorance is no barrier. Loyalty is a fine characteristic but it can be taken too far.

glass Of course. That's ore than likely.

more, not ore.

Sorry, can't name all the names but I have to agree with what Kali is saying. I disagree with those who think it is wrong to support another poster. If I feel that someone is being unjustly treated I feel it is important to stand up for them and will continue to do so. How lonely we would all feel when a poster has been unkind/misrepresented what we said/or otherwise been unfair.

I do believe that one person can start it and that walking away is not always an option. When someone has misinterpreted what I have said then I want to respond and make sure everyone has an opportunity to read the correction. If someone chooses to dislike me I want it to be based on what I have said and not on what someone else has said I said.

Greatnan was out walking yesterday; I expect she'll be doing the same today, weather permitting. I'm sure she'll pop up here soon as fresh as a daisy.

If I may say so, I think sometimes if you are feeling low or vulnerable for a particular reason, it is very easy to take remarks to heart and feel upset or hurt.
If you are feeling cheerful and confident things don't bother you in the same way.

Just saying

Movedalot Surely Jodi and Petallus were not saying it was wrong to stand up for another poster when that poster is being unfairly treated. They were saying quite the opposite – that it is wrong to leap to someone's defence automatically out of loyalty even when they are in the wrong. I was agreeing with them.

If that is what they meant absent then I totally agree with them.

Agreed, Ella.

That's how I read it Movedalot but I am accused so often of misinterpreting, misrepresenting and failing to understand even the simplest posts with the most basic vocabulary that I begin to wonder if I have dementia or dysexlia or some unnamed combination of the two.

ella

Say away, Ella. I think you're spot on. I'm certainly aware of that in myself.

I agree with your last comment harrigran and would also add that the length of time you have been a member shouldn't matter either. Everyone surely has the right to comment on whatever they choose, regardless of whether they were in at the start or just joined yesterday

I am always happy for someone to point out to me that a poster was being kind if I have read their post in a different way. I prefer to think good things of people until they prove me wrong. Even then I will give them more chances to prove they are well intentioned. I am very forgiving.

Greatnan is taking a break from a bloody awful few days of spiteful/child-like banter. Streuth! What are we coming to...

I think the forgiving thing is so important. Holding grudges for something that offended a long time ago, intended or not, doesn't allow for people changing their mind or their views. I would rather not respond to posts, than keep picking away at someone whose views I don't agree with. Today it's starting to feel more like the Gransnet we are familiar with. A bit tolerance and patience for each other definitely works

Thanks for your good sense, when

Sorry you feel that way Jodi , most of us are or were professional women too and the childish behaviour has come from a very few contributors. In the words of the song can we not "Rise above it"??