Forum etiquette.

Is it time to perhaps put a close to this thread?

granbunny was fairly outspoken when she first came on to GN and was definitely picked on because of it. She was reported three times I seem to remember.

At the time I didn't like the way certain of us moved to, I suppose you could say, maintain the status quo by preventing granbunny from saying what she thought, at least some of which I for one agreed with.

I've never really considered myself to be wise, kind, loving, thoughtful and helpful (sounds exhausting). If I was going to agree to take on those virtues I'd need something a bit more feisty as well to balance out my character .

Finally, this IS the right forum for granbunny even if she is feeling cross.

It's not that kind of pm-ing I mean glamma. I like friendly pm s.

Glass sometimes pm's me. [glow!]

I am just picking up on the PMing comments earlier and I can say that I PM people on subjects that are of a personal nature who wants to read about what the surgeon did when I had my operation all to intimate for posting and I PM a member because she used to live not far from me on The Wirral and we know a lot of places of mutual interest so I think the PM option is a good tool to use

At the risk of perpetuating this I have to stick up for myself- sorry!

granbunny I think you were being a little paranoid to assume I was referring to you (grammar!!). I certainly wasn't! I was making a general point about etiquette on this forum. Now, I have taken offence - which is something I rarely do. .

To me, gransnet is a community like many others, made up of wise, kind, loving, thoughtful and helpful people who also happen to be a mix of ardent right wingers, trendy lefties, feminists, traditionalists, dog lovers and haters, cat lovers and haters, peacemakers, stirrers, vociferous people and more reserved people (have I offended everyone yet?) When I go to the shops in my village I avoid the people I don't want to speak to - simples ([jeni])

If I wasn't welcoming enough or have done anything to offend you, I apologise but maybe this is not the right forum for you if we make you so cross.

There are more suitable candidates for GN prefect than moi I'm sure.

imjingl you've already got a thread entirely in your name. What more could you ask for? You don't want to be greedy!

Greatnan agree we shouldn't correct others spelling or grammar. Having said that I've got a friend who is better educated than me and I ask him to let me know if I mispronounce something.

But you know what, the more I think about us (we?) Gransnetters, each contributing in our own way to the mix, the more I think it's all fine by me.

I most certainly haven't haven't! Would be an awful thing to do.

I think my motivation in the original post is very obvious - I thought it was rude for someone to correct another member's spelling or grammar. I don't think anyone has disagreed with me. If you have ever done this, then it is aimed at you - if you haven't, it isn't. Simple.

Oh God. This thread is making me paranoid. I've started to go through the posts picking out bits that are definitely could be aimed at me!

Whatever it was that precipitated this thread, it has obviously washed straight by me! However, I would just say that I don't observe any particular problem. There are some posters who are a bit feistier than others, but it is all part of life's rich pattern.
There are some interesting opinions and advice to be found here, and some people will feel very strongly about some of the topics and express themselves with passion (see my posts on immunisation!)- that's just fine.

We don't need prefects,I am still sensitive from being one of the few girls at my school not to be chosen. We are grown ups and honestly we're doing fine! Just the odd hiccup now and again, keep calm and carry on!

I never got to be a prefect - they were all posh girls!
I don't think we need prefects here - we are all equals and we have the mods to make sure we behave.

Do schools still have prefects? Hmm. DD is moving up to secondary school this summer. I'll ask about that. I know they give each of the newbies an S6 Buddy when they start — one of the Sixth Year kids to look after the littluns during their first year. That's a nice idea and I've seen a few GN-ers giving a welcoming message out whenever someone new makes themselves known, which I,ve thought of as a similar buddyish thing.

Would you be a GN prefect, petallus? Were you one at school? What would a GN prefect do?

If Gransnet were a school, who would our prefects be?

I think the reason people say they will pm the answer to a question is because it will be specific to the person posing the question and might be of no interest to other members. I don't see anything sinister in that.

I post a lot (some forums show members posting rate but if you put a name into the search box you will find out how many posts have been made) because I live alone in an isolated area and forums like this, and my expat forums, are my means of communication with the wider world. Does that make me in some way part of a clique? With so many members, and my memory not being as sharp as it was, I don't always recognise a poster and have to look up their previous posts. I have had pm's with a handful of members when we have some specific reason , such as when someone asks my advice about tax. I found I had so much in common with one member that we became Facebook friends - surely that is a good thing?

I am very willing to accept that people will not share my beliefs on many subjects, but I don't see how I could say 'Well this is what I believe and you believe the opposite but we are both right'. That does not mean that I treat them discourteously - they are perfectly entitled to their point of view and I am perfectly entitled to disagree.

There are one or two members who seem to have annoyed or offended several others by the tone of their posts. It does not mean the other members have colluded in some way, or are part of a clique, just that they were all in agreement on a particular post. They may well completely disagree with each other on other subjects.

I've read through this thread with great interest, and have decided to make a contribution to it, so here goes, (slightly nervous about how it will be received).
I'm not sure how many members GN has now, but I'm sure it runs into thousands. Of that number I could name only about ten with any certainty and that's because they either post regularly, have such warm and caring natures, can offer specialised advice, or have an attitude (you can agree with me or you can be wrong) that grates. I don't often post but love this forum and find it sad that it can degenerate into schoolyard jibes. Surely we are all old enough to live and let live?
It can feel a bit cliquey, especially when you see one poster ask a question and they will be told that they will be pm'd. I agree with Jingle that in some ways that facility is not such a good idea, although obviously it has it's place.

jeni he would have the shock of his life if he was I'm perched on my stool in the kitchen in pink fluffy dressing-gown and winnie the pooh slippers just out of the shower so my hair is all piled on top as though dragged through a hedge backwards.

Be aware! Big brother is watching YOU!

Wow - that's amazing (or scary!)

So true Anagram I just Googled my name and came up with a post I made last week re baking powder so all is open for viewing world wide as jeni says public domain

In fact, if you Google the subject of one of our threads, or even a topic of discussion, it will come up and anyone in the world can view it!

Exactly jeni.

I think!

What HAS happened to my typing tonight? It's even worse than usual! It must be lack of

jing you are quite correcting is onthe public domain .