Forum etiquette.

granbunny. Interesting.

(don't mean to start this thread up again, though)

What on earth is going on? This bantering about somebody saying nasty things about somebody else saying nasty things and not feeling welcome.

Come on we're grandmothers. We are actually grown up women!

I would just like to add, as this thread has been brought up yet again, that no posts at all have been deleted. I re-read them myself this morning. And I have nothing further to say on the matter.

The End

I believe that some established members may have ended their membership following on from this thread. I think that is very sad and I hope they will come back at some point; they will be missed.

bagitha's comment makes perfect sense. I believe that it's time to close this thread and make room for fresh debate on a matter that uplifts, as opposed to downcasts.

I'm with you totally harrigan ...I too have been made to fell very uncomfortable by some of the comments on this thread.

Infact have just PM'd someone I trust, to ask what has been going on while I've been away.

Oh dear, I am feeling a little uncomfortable. This is the first time I have felt like this on GN

I read the posts and was unsure of what granbunny wrote to be reported and agree with jingle.

I might take this opportunity to add that there are a few posters that often say that a subject is codswallop etc if they don't agree, find it matches their beliefs, or whatever. I have also seen a new poster told off for a comment and felt unhappy about this and I have not seen that person post since.

If you have no interest or belief in a thread why does everyone else have to be told, is it stop any more discussion? Yes Gransnet is cliquey and it has been a shame to see so many posters cease writing comments!!!

cross post with yours, granbunny. I know you felt bad about it and I'm sorry for that.

I think those of you who keep mentioning that granbunny was "picked on" when she first began to post should know that this dredging up of past mistakes and dwelling upon them is upsetting some of the people concerned who are sorry for any misjudgements they may have made and for anything they said that was upsetting to granbunny. As someone who stood up for granbunny at the time (though I thought she came over as a bit abrupt too, but were all different so what the heck), I'd like to ask you in strong terms to PLEASE DROP IT for kindness' sake!

With thanks in anticipation.

maybe this is not the right forum for you ...shakes head.
fairly outspoken ....raises eyebrows. (you should hear me when i am outspoken )
Finally, this IS the right forum for granbunny even if she is feeling cross. - thank you, petallus
None of Granbunny's posts were deleted though ...is that so? i don't know. i do know that the troll-calling was removed...shame really, the nasty posts should have been left there for all to see. and the ones who followed from thread to thread. its hard to support a claim of having been unfairly treated when the evidence has been removed!
anagram and jingl- i had two messages from gn - one telling me i'd been reported and one recognising that 'something nasty was going on'. i understood that 'words' were said to others...

gracesmum Very true.

The one thing I try to remember is that without face to face contact, we never know how another personn is feeling when (s)he posts. Maybe putting on a brave face, maybe very shy but trying to be more outgoing, maybe feeling unsure about revealing personal feelings which have been bottled up? I just know that sometimes I can feel uplifted, comforted or amused and at other times I can feel put down (e.g. when comment is completely ignored, going down like the proverbial lead balloon)and left out.
Just a thought.

If you see me back on here today, feel free to shoot.

Not Greatnan though. She would be too good a shot.

GO AND COOK THE DINNER, jings!

which is odd in itself......... [thoughtful] [amazed]

If they went in for having a word with anybody, they would have done so with me by now, and they haven't.

Whatever you say, imjingl

Yes. Supportive, I've no doubt.

There was nothing wrong with her posts. She was being tentative. Like, dipping your toe in before taking the plunge.

How did we get back onto this? and me with a dinner to cook!

I think they did have a word, though.....

None of Granbunny's posts were deleted though. So GNHQ couldn't have thought they were so bad.

greatnan my comment about the use of pm was mainly referring to how it was used. For example "I've been away, what's been going on?" and someone will reply "will pm you". Hope that clears it up, obviously some things should be discussed privately.

petallus