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Over 35 yrs ago I walked back to the car pushing my laden trolley, daughter in the seat of trolley and as I lifted her out to put her in her car seat a bag of apples appeared.
I was mortified. I left them in the trolley and came home but all these years later I go cold thinking about it.
I did exactly the same when my son was a tiny baby - when I lifted his car seat off the trolley I found a chicken under it! (before I was vegetarian!)
I felt my stomach roll with fear and my face go hot!
I said to the woman loading her car next to me "I'm not stealing it, I'm going to go back and pay for it, honest!"
She said "Oh, I wouldn't bother, it looks like you've got away with it".!
Needless to say I DID go back and pay for it - my conscience wouldn't let me do otherwise.
Once, when I'd missed lunch and dashed into Tesco with my then I think about 4 year old son sitting in the trolley, I took a bite out of the sandwich I'd bought while finishing the shopping and my son said very loudly "Mummy, you can't eat that if you haven't paid for it, it's STEALING!"
I told him I WAS going to pay for it and showed one of the checkout operators what I was doing and she laughed.
"That makes a change, usually the mums round here just send the children in to grab something off the shelf for their lunch or dinner and don't pay for it so they kids think that's normal!"