Ninathenana I just saw your thread saying your mum has died and would like to add my condolences. I spotted it as I was about to say the same thing. My mum died last night and I'm feeling very mixed up about it. Ever since I hit my teens mum and I had a tempestuous relationship but during the last six months or so this really changed and we've become really close so I'm sad that she has gone. But on the other hand she had a nasty cancer in her stomach and was so poorly I feel relieved that her suffering is done. I feel like I did when dad died, that we've all moved into another room and left her behind.
Nfk sad for you but pleased that you managed to rebuild your relationship with your Mum, it must have meant the world to her. I think a RIP thread is a good idea and it could even included remembrances on the anniversary of a death too.
I think an RIP thread is a good idea because we will know, when it appears high up on the active list, that one of us has lost a loved one. It's not a piece of news that's easy to post and choosing an appropriate thread might not be easy.
NfkDumpling, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, but the fact that you became really close to each other over the last wee while will have been such a good thing for both of you. xx
Thank you everybody. It's been a busy day, chasing her doctor for death certificate etc - and my DD and three DGDs (1, 3 and 4) are staying until tomorrow so there's not been time for things to sink in yet. - And I want to get as much sorting done as possible before it does!
from me too. It is so hard to lose a parent as that part of our lives goes too - those earliest memories and the family histories which only our parents and perhaps our siblings really share.
My condolences too Nfk. The reality of your Mum's death will not hit you for a while and I think that's Nature's way of helping us to cope. Try to remember the good times and all that she did for you and forget the difficult times - it's all water under the bridge.