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Bereavement

Sometimes it’s just the small things that press the bruise isn’t it? 😢

(114 Posts)
Curlywhirly Sat 09-May-26 18:40:37

FGT2 thankssuch a sad post. Take care.

ViceVersa Sat 09-May-26 18:25:01

I'm not a widow myself, but I just wanted to say to be kind to yourself - it is still early days, and grief is not a linear thing. Sometimes it just creeps up and smacks you right in the face when you least expect it. And yes, it's often those little things which hurt the most - the things which we do tend to take for granted. flowers

Allira Sat 09-May-26 18:16:44

Sending you a hug as well.

Your post brought tears to my eyes, FGT.
It must be so hard, missing all those little things we take for granted.

💐

Chocolatelovinggran Sat 09-May-26 18:09:28

It's very early days, FGT. You are probably still waking up expecting to see your DH beside you. Hopefully, time will help, but mourning is the price we pay for love, it is said, so I hope that you can be glad of the love that you shared.
Best wishes.

TerriBull Sat 09-May-26 17:56:28

I'm so sorry FGT you evoke that devastating loss in all its rawness. I hope writing about it proves carthatic in some sort of way.flowers

CazB Sat 09-May-26 17:52:46

So very sorry for your loss. xx

B9exchange Sat 09-May-26 17:52:37

If knowing how much we care about what you are going through is of any use at all, then be reassured that we do. There is nothing that can relieve your pain, but there are those on here who are going through the same anguish. 💐

karmalady Sat 09-May-26 17:50:47

FGT I am sending you a hug

For me it was similar, it hit me the very next day when I woke early and the dishes were not put away.

Realisation kicked in, no-one but me to make myself a cup of tea, to take me out hand in hand and no goodbye. It happened so suddenly, we kissed, he went out for a cycle ride and his heart failed going up a hill. A policeman came to tell me and took me to the hospital, he was taken there by air ambulance, we were too late. I was in shock then reality hit me good and hard

I know how you feel FGT I really do

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sat 09-May-26 17:50:14

Thank you so much your kindness is touching. x

Any other widows out there who feel similar ‘pinches’? We can share. I never knew how devastating this would be. Not really.
The loss of a life partner is different to any other bereavement I have endured.

I have also lost my confidence a bit.

nanaK54 Sat 09-May-26 17:45:22

I'm so sorry, sending kindest thoughts to you flowers

crazyH Sat 09-May-26 17:40:19

So sorry 🥲

petra Sat 09-May-26 17:32:32

I’m so sorry 😥 There arnt words enough to express how I feel for your pain.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 09-May-26 17:31:37

Sending you a very big (((hug))) 😘

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sat 09-May-26 17:25:24

I’m widowed these last eleven weeks (who’s counting? Me, always will I think) my darling husband of 52 years died from cancer in February this year. Things are raw. Some days I cope better than I thought I would. Then some days I cry, a lot. I grab a cushion and just bawl my eyes out. I feel so hollow inside as if I might just float away.

And yet sometimes it’s the small things that pinch.

No one to bring you a TiB with a cheery good morning, no one to fix a G&T at sundown, or to share chores. Everything now has to be done by me - from washing up, nipping into Sainsbury’s, doing the accounts.

I cried yesterday because the last of my make up remover pads had run out and he bought them whilst out shopping. It just completely undid me. Anyone would think me nuts, crying like that over something so daft. But I did. For the first time in my life I know what ‘keening’ is. Such a forceful tsunami of emotion.