Anniversary of husband’s death

Please accept my utter heartfelt condolences on this anniversary. Since the day your loved one passed, many years have gone by, but just know that they have always been with you and will forever be at your side. I am thinking of you and praying for you today as you remember the death of your [husband]

Mention their loved one's name, and let your friend know that you're thinking of both of them. It could be as simple as a text that says, “Hey, I know today is one year since [name] died. I just want you to know I'm thinking of you. [S]he was a really special person who left an amazing legacy.

Warm wishes to those who are starting a new life in 2022 without DH or close relatives. Or have sad memories at this time of year when loved ones have passed away in other years and have to cope every Christmas and New Year without them.

Enjoy the music SusieB50 - a lovely gift to treasure.

Hi SusieB,
I feel with you. After 7 years it still hurts . My husband died of pancreatic cancer after a very short Illness. I was grateful that he passed away at home and said he’d had a good life . Beautiful. Memories that I’m very grateful for . To love and be loved is very special .

harrigran how awful for your DH and family . I can’t imagine how you coped . The Macmillan and District nursing teams were so wonderful in helping me care for DH at home . When a loved one is coming to the end of their lives all you want is for them to be pain free and at peace . So sorry
harrigran ☹️?

SusieB - thinking of you and hope you raised a glass to your late DH, I can sympathise with you having lost my DH of over 40 years to cancer in August this year. I hope you got through the second anniversary and enjoyed listening to the playlist, it will have been very emotional I’m sure but lovely that he put the songs together for you. It is so hard adjusting to life without the man you loved after so many years together but you sound like you have the right attitude and are trying to be positive which is all we can do really.
Harrigran, my thoughts are with you too, we had similar issues with my husbands oncology appointments, there were also delays in discussing scan results, it was very stressful. I do take comfort knowing that for the last couple of weeks he was at home with me and our lovely family around him,
Thinking of all of you who are going into this New Year without their loved ones at their side ?

My DH suffered during the pandemic due to hospital appointments being cancelled and doctor's letters not arriving. We could not move him to a hospice because they closed it due to covid. I felt he suffered much more than anyone should have to, we could not even get help from the Marie Curie nurses, I had to do all the nursing care myself. He did not have the end of life care he deserved.

Thinking of you SusieB, Glammanana and Georgesgran
So sorry for your loss and truly wish you all a better year. ?

SusieB love your way of thinking and your attitude in general. Good luck. ?. G, I had a similar harsh experience to yours but many years earlier. Good luck to you too. ?

It sounds wonderful, SusieB.
There are a good few music lovers on here, meaning me!
If you feel up to posting again tonight, I would love to find some of 'your' songs and have a little think about them.
If not, enjoy.

You’re very brave, SusieB. I find music the hardest part of all.

Enjoy your evening and your memories.

MissAdventure, it’s an eclectic mix from Beatles, Simon and Garfunkel, to Albinoni and Elgar , generally reminders of times and places …

I have no words so hope these flowers will be of some comfort Susie.

I too am in the same situation, having lost my DH in March this year. I know he wouldn’t have wanted me or our DD’s to allow his loss to cause as much sorrow as it has. However, life must go on and at 70, my time is limited, so I shall make the best of it and share some with my much loved DGS, one 4 years old and the other 6 months, who DH sadly didn’t live to see.
?all round. X

Do you have an idea of what songs may be on the playlist, SusieB?
How lovely, and how very poignant.
I do hope you have a peaceful evening.

SusieB and Glammanana I know how hard the anniversary of losing someone is.

Best wishes for 2021, SuzieB

When DH died earlier this year my grieving was rushed along what seemed like a tidal wave due to the family wanting me to move nearer to them ASAP. It was too much and I ended up in hospital.

Now I am settled in my new home I intend to pick up where I left off and acknowledge our 53 years of marriage in whichever pace feels appropriate.

Thank you all for the kinds words , and yes let’s hope next year will bring some normality to our lives ?

Your post has touched me too SusieB .
DH died 4 years ago and I had just “started up “ my life again when the pandemic hit.
I realised that if anything could have been worse than losing a life’s partner after (in our case) 47 years of marriage, it would have been to endure the same grief in isolation, unable to be with him or fearful of infection.
You have made a good point about an extended period of grieving , too often we are expected to “get over it” these days, but of course you never do.
Here’s to 2022 and starting to do all those things which will surely bring you comfort ??

Oh Susie an Glammanana - I'm so sorry that you both lost your Darling Husbands 2 years ago. Susie I cried reading your post. We are/you were so lucky to have wonderful men in our lives, and we so appreciate them as we get older and the kids leave home and there is just the two of us/you

I will think of you both as you raise a glass to them this evening, and wish all us Wonderful Grans, and you two lovely ladies in particular and much much better new year than the last two lousy ones have been.

Much love

Love and thoughts to SusieB50 and Glammanana xx.

I feel lucky to have known Glammanana's dear H as we spoke regularly when he used to take the dog walking around where I live. We enjoyed many a laugh and also putting the world to rights. A gentleman, who I missed for a long time after.

Susie I could have written your lovely post myself as it's also 2 years ago this month that I lost my wonderful man,he left us so unexpectedly just minutes after saying he was off to collect our DD for work he never got there and died in his car on his way to her house.
The past 2 years have gone by quietly due to Covid and isolation but I have many memories of our 45+ yrs together which have gotten me through,I am feeling and hoping 2022 will be a much better year for me and my family.
I too listen to his favourite music which has many memories as to where we where at special times.

I am thinking of you Susie, sending
'hugs' and enjoy that play list , raise a glass to your lovely man ! Wishing you a peaceful 2022. ??

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Enjoy the playlist and memories of your husband Susie