My mum died this evening.

So sorry to hear your news kitty. I join all the other GNs in sending my love and condolences. Being busy organising everything will be good for you - it certainly helped me with the grieving and accepting process which follows the death of a loved one

Sorry to hear this Kitty. As others have said, even though you have been expecting this for some time, when the reality comes there are a lot of emotions to deal with. I know that, like Phoenix, your relationship with your mother was complex but it doesn't stop you feeling sadness. Glad you were able to be there. Thinking of you.

kittylester I am sorry - have sent you a pm.

Sad news Kitty but I think you have sometimes brought a smile to our faces with some of your mum's 'antics', may she now be at peace. Take care.

So sorry to hear your news

Please accept my condolances, good that you were all together as she passed. Hugs,

Virtual hugs and

Condolences to you.

My condolences, kitty and hugs.

You have had a rollercoaster year,and your mum has made smile when you have posted on your visits,but I have had also read of the difficulties you have had over the years,be kind to yourself RIP kittys mum

Oh kitty I'm sorry, you've been through such a lot with your mum and even though she's been teetering on the brink for a long time, it must be a shock.
Look after yourself now, (((hugs))) xxx

Can't tell you how sorry I am kitty. My condolences to you and your family .

What a terrible shock for you. So sad. Condolences to you and your family.

sincere condolences to you and your family kitty. It's good to read that you were with her as her life ended x

Sending condolences to you and your family dearest kitty.

kitty. Thinking of you and your family. Please accept my condolences.

So sorry to hear of the death of your dear mum kittylester

I think that no matter how old, frail or ill someone you love might be, their passing always comes as a shock. So glad you could be with her at the end. Thinking of you.

Condolences kitty. You've been through a lot with your mum - glad that you were there at the end.

Condolences kitty.

In some way, she was a frequent visitor to this forum

It's a good thing you're in charge of organisation, it'll stop you over-thinking and your emotions are likely to be running riot when you're not looking! Take care of yourself. xx

kitty take care of yourself

Thinking of you x

Goodness me, thank you all for your kind messages. And thank you to people who have pmed me.

I posted last night because I needed to do something and it was too late to start doing phone calls, but I wasn't expecting that response.

As lots of you know, mum and her children, but me especially, have had a strange relationship. She caused a lot of trouble between my brothers and me. Looking after her over the past 10 years or so has brought us back together and, for that, I'm very grateful.

Not really sure how I feel but I'm in charge of organisation so I'm going to be busy.

What a rollercoaster Kitty. What a lady! I'm glad you and your brother were both with her - she couldn't have had better children (((hugs)))