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Thistle, my opinion is that is is wise to treat offspring fairly when it comes to major gifts. As you are responsible for her finances do you have LPA for her? That means acting in accordance with her wishes and her best interests, so I don’t think you have a choice.

I have found the Sue Ryder charity very helpful in the past- their web-site is very good and helped me a lot.

Mostly a new thread with all new names (bar one). I’m sure was a recent thread on this and most GN’s reported these sites/meetings as decidedly unhelpful, where people almost ‘wallowed’ in self pity. It might be worth a read, if you can find it.

Thistle you could start a new thread about your situation, as I’ve found GNs post on the opening title and don’t bother reading other comments,

Briefly, we are responsible for all of my husbands mothers financial matters. She has recently bought a new car and very kindly gifted her previous car under the proviso that we send half to his sibling that lives abroad and has no input into her day to day, and everything entailed with this. We are only talking about £1500 but we are on an substantially lower income than the sibling, just looking for perspective as obviously my husband is in a very difficult family position but this does not stop me feeling that this is unfair.

Thank you for your help its just what do you do face them and yell them or hope it will pass I know he would be devastated to get ris of all their stuff as he and my mum were really close don't want to upset him anymore.

Sorry for your loss Grandson2008 I lost my mum due to dementia too.
Dad died many years ago and I remember mum having an 'odd' few months. She became obsessed with many things including asbestos in the bathroom and would get tearful over the worry that the council would find out. I think your dad's behaviour is a phase of the grieving process.

I recently lost my precious mum to vascular dementia 5 weeks ago in fact. I haven't let the grief come as I have had so much to do pus of course looking after my dad. He has been through various stages as is the way but now he's gone weird ie talking about replacing everything in the bungalow there is nothing wrong its practically new anyway okus talking about going on holiday on his own for months at a time as anyone else been through this help if you can

www.cruse.org.uk/cruse-areas-and-branches

some areas have a support group

Bereavement.co.uk has forums and a live chat as well as lots of written support and info on their site.

Also as annsixty has mentioned Streetlife and I second that. Once you have signed up you can also write your own message asking if there are others in a similar position who you could meet with ... Because its local its a very safe way of online meet up.

Are you on FB ? Perhaps there is a page for a suitable local group.

None at all I'm afraid but do you have Streetlife in your area? It is a local website and my friend joined a friendship club, but not online or a chat room. This is a lunchtime weekly meeting in the conservatory of a local pub and she has made some good friends, mostly on their own, and they have meals out, outings etc. if there isn't one are you brave enough to start one by advertising? This one I am talking about has been going about 14 months and from a small start has about 40 members. One word , it can become a bit cliquey!!