Why can't I wear this to a wedding?

Yes that was rubbish wasn't it🤣🤣🤣🤣

I had to think very hard about what wotd I started with.

It was sizeable.

A combination of wobbly fingers and auto correct 😬

It promoted me to find out how to turn auto correct off👏

If only someone could do something about the fingers….

Lathyrus3

hollysteers

Lathyrus3 sorry, you are spouting absolute rubbish🙄

Any particular bit?

Probably this bit, Lathyrus3:

"suzabke?"

Not sure what language it is 😁

As long as it doesn't clash with anyone in the main bridal party, that is an important aspect. When my daughter got married 13 years ago, her nasty MIL deliberately chose something that clashed with the bridesmaids dresses. The bridesmaids dresses were a lovely soft shade of mauve, medium colour. Mine was a muted lavender colour that blended in nicely. They were all made by a friend of my younger daughter who had her own dressmaking business. Her MIL mentioned two dresses, one RED and the other green. My daughter obviously thought neither would go, but thought the green would blend in better, so she said the green one is nice. MIL wore the RED one! At the wedding my mum who was in a wheelchair as she had motor neurone disease and couldn't speak, wrote on her pad "I don't like that woman in red". My sister said "that's xxxxx'x mum. She quickly scribbled it out. Very discerning woman my mum.

You could take it to a seamstress, and ask her to update anything which is dated.
Perhaps a few alterations might ensure it passes your daughters exacting standards.
Perhaps though, your girl would just like you to splash out on yourself, for all the best reasons?

Maybe you could dye it, depending on the fabric and if it's likely to shrink. If you go for navy it might end up a muddy colour, so how about green? Or red? A brightish red would end up not so bright. Lots of options for colours. As someone said, ask your granddaughter what she thinks.

Ok.

Different groups of people have different etiquettes I guess.

I didn't realise till this thread but I can see lots of people would feel ok about going to a wedding in a neutral lacy outfit.

Horses for courses🙂

Primrose53 So the groom's son allowed that to happen?! I'm speechless. Says a lot about who wears the trousers in his marriage! What a b*tch.

Lathyrus lace outfit, neutral shades etc etc.

hollysteers

Lathyrus3 sorry, you are spouting absolute rubbish🙄

Any particular bit?

Lathyrus3 sorry, you are spouting absolute rubbish🙄

Anyone who had a specific colour theme for the bridal party could jump in the lake as far as I’m concerned.

I have a very environmentally conscious friend who bought a dress in a charity shop for her daughter’s wedding. She dyed it and paid to have it altered and it looked…awful!

I'd be more than likely to pass it by the bride to see if she is happy as it is really her day. I don't think an outfit is worth upsetting somebody over but if she is happy with it then your daughter should be too.

My daughter often dislikes my outfits because she wouldn't be seen dead in them. We are different generations so I think it is to be expected. That said, my sister and I have very different tastes too and we are only 20 months apart. xx

ginny

Wear the outfit you have. What’s the point of wasting money on another? Unless of course your daughter would like to pay for the new one.😀

Your outfit sounds classy. Agree, if your daughter wants you to wear something new. Ler her pay for it.

Generally speaking, I don't think you should wear an outfit a second time if you are the mother of the bride or groom. A new outfit is best.

Otherwise, just consider whether anyone will be at this wedding who was at the last one.

Also, what about photographs? You need to look fairly different if you are in two different sets of wedding photos.

Those would be my two priorities.

Ignore half of that .. misread that you’re the grandmother ! In which case this is your daughter putting pressure for the same reasons as above as she is the mother of the bride !

You’re the mother of the bride ! That’s quite a key role emotionally and physically for her and for you .. your daughter prob feels you’re not placing enough significance in it by not buying something specially and wearing something bought for another brides wedding .. I understand where she is coming from even though it seems a waste of an outfit .

If you like hats you could wear a nice hat with it.

I think you should wear it just buy a lovely bright hat, bag and shoes to bring up to date. Always refuse where you can.

We were at a wedding last week, dress code party wear but please no white.

I would wear the outfit you have. If it is comfortable and has not been seen by the other guests before I see no problem. As for going against your DD's advice I wish I hadn't listened to my DD when my DS got married. She insisted I must buy navy shoes to go with my navy dress. I accepted her advice but regretted it. By the time the service and photos were over I was in pain in my new shoes. I drove to the reception in my everyday black flat shoes which I'd left in the car for the purpose, and didn't take them off! The navy shoes were never worn again. I doubt anyone noticed! She also had issues with my plans for headwear and I stuck to my guns and she admitted on the day that what I did looked ok! It was a summer wedding and I knew that wearing a hat all day would be unbearable as I'm prone to a sweating head. My hair is very thin on each side so a fascinator would only conceal one side of the problem, so I opted for a wide navy hair band which I decorated with fabric 'flowers' and wore a matching flower brooch which I made for the occasion.
If my DD ever marries I expect I'll be given strict instructions as to what to wear and may struggle not to comply!

My daughter-in-law had a loosely "colour themed" wedding ^just for the main guests). It was blues through teal (and a muted pinky colour I think, from memory).

My mother-in-law was going to wear a 2 piece navy blue - but it was very hot and so she wore a bright green with the navy.

Nobody bothered.
It was one formal photo - and still looks lovely.

I would wear it too. The main thing is to be comfy and enjoy yourself.Don't think your DD would appreciate it either if you were uncomfy and miserable all day in something you don't want to wear.However, just make sure it is still either 'Classical' or in fashion for now and that your DD wasn't trying to tell you kindly that the outfit wouldn't be right.

I would definitely wear the nearly new outfit, you like it, it fits well and has only been worn once. Maybe you could compromise and buy a new hat, or shoes or handbag, or even a piece of jewellery to wear at the wedding.

If no one has seen you in it before, and you are as comfortable in it as you say, I would wear it. The mother-of-the bride (your daughter) should mind her own business! It sounds lovely. Wear it in good health and have a good time.