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Being excluded from Hen do!

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Astitchintime Mon 27-Jul-26 15:20:30

Very thoughtless of future DIL……..but I’d not say anything……sooner put it on the back burner and make a mental note to not be quite so available or prepared to dance to her tune!

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DancingDuck Mon 27-Jul-26 15:16:14

So sorry to hear this, I can understand how upsetting this must have been.
I think its very thoughtless of your future DIL to have not asked you even if she did think it wasn't your thing.
Personally I would mention it and say how upset you are as otherwise these things can fester and may then affect your enjoyment of the wedding and any future relationship with her.

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Desdemona Mon 27-Jul-26 15:14:11

I can understand how upset you must have been. What a thoughtless thing to do.

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Flippin2 Mon 27-Jul-26 15:07:28

Rise above it,don't let her know you were upset by it,some people are just totally thoughtless

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Calendargirl Mon 27-Jul-26 14:41:16

How upsetting.

I can understand her own mum going, but the aunt as well?

It would have been nice to be asked.

Thoughtlesss, but perhaps she felt it wouldn’t be your ‘thing’?

Try not to let it get to you, but difficult not to feel a bit ‘used’ as you obviously are useful for GD duties.

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Roxynounou Mon 27-Jul-26 14:34:39

My future DIL has just come back from her Hen weekend. I wasn't invited and had thought it was just because it was for the younger ones. But the bride to be, has posted pictures and the group includes her mother, aunt and her brothers girlfriend!,,,. I didnt expect to go but the comment that "all the women I care about are here"! Has really knocked me. She just messaged me to say I can arrive a little later tomorrow ( I look after my GD tomorrow) as she is taking GD to visit a new nursery. I can honesty say I can't remember the last time I cried.

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