Grandmother

Can you occasionally have her on her own? And have a special outing like tea in a cafe or cinema.

Yes, we do this. Just before Christmas she had a PD day so we spent the day baking etc. And a few months before that we went out for pho just the two of us. I will try to schedule more time with her They are so busy as well.

I agree, I think your GD would benefit from some time alone with you. Is that possible? Her reaction is very normal, try if you can to have an outing just for her .

Why not partner with her in looking after her brother. become a pair, united by you both being the 'grown-ups' together looking after the little one. Discuss with her what the two of you shuld do to keep hm occupied, what you should eat. Have some activties that you both agree he cannot do because he is too young but you too can - some crafts, some cooking. he makes something simple but she can do something more complicated. Build up her self esteem and place her in the important role of being an elder sister.

What a very lovely approach Monica

My thoughts exactly M0nica.

I always split my two when they had a holiday with granny . She never had both at the same time and they loved their special times with her.