Feeling rather friendless and need help to buck up.

I’m sorry you’ve had a tough time MrsEBear You are right, you must make time for yourself, and it will help you stay on top of things.

I moved to a new area during early covid. The daily walk was a lifesaver in more ways than one. I don’t have a dog but the dog walkers are often happy to respond to a nice comment about their dog. That way I met a lady who set the ball rolling for me. It’s taken time but I’m now really enjoying meet-ups and walks.

The U3A locally have also been brilliant for me with their daytime groups.

All the best. I hope you can come back and tell us you’re making progress over the next few months.

It makes real good sense after a busy time and crisis' full on our bodies physically and emotionally go "flump".

All the adrenaline in the crisis time time and you've moved by the sound of it to be near family..huge changes. No wonder you are disinclined to do domestics and alone things at home.

I think you need some "me time" to do things that aren't domestics alone or family helping out.

And you might not even know what those things are yet until you create the space.

This might be difficult to hear for the family

but maybe you could consider cutting down on commitments to them in order to find what is creative or sustaining for you in your new home

...local libraries usually have information about groups, it takes time to get to know neighbours and so on.

(my family have suggested I consider coming up to live in the area, but I am very aware I could not cope if it meant me using all my energy on them)

There isn’t one nearby unfortunately. I’m afraid I may sound rather defeatist, right now I’m struggling a bit.

Sorry to hear that you aren’t settling in, did you move to be closer to family? Maybe they could help you in your quest for things to do and people to meet?
But come onto Gransnet, Soop has a very friendly kitchen, there is the daily Good Morning thread, being on GN can take up half the day if you let it, and some Grans have meet ups.
Sit yourself down and get the Admin out of the way, you know you will feel better once it’s done. Maybe Go for walks, can you borrow a dog to take out? Or even get one yourself? They are good icebreakers.
I hope you start to feel better soon
Meanwhile here’s some?

I know how you feel. I seem to have become a maid, only important to cook and wash. And I'm good for lifts too!

Thank you Yggdrasil, I will look it up.

may I suggest you contact your local U3A