Ideas needed for 18th birthday gift

Just give her the money and let her decide for herself what she wants to do with it.

emmamitchell.net/ Emma makes silver pieces from nature, absolutely beautiful and quite unique. She also runs courses.

ormebrown.com/ makes lovely bespoke pieces and is sustainable & ethical but not a lot on the website as she is mostly bespoke.

Daisy, I had a look at her work - very nice, and she is obviously looking at the ethics of her silver/gold...
That said, I think I would no longer want to buy diamonds from anywhere other than Canada now - and certified with the Canada Mark.

www.canadamark.com/

Bought my DGD an engraved ID bracelet. They are apparently in at the moment. I found what I consider to be a suitable quote, plus the date on reverse. You can find various makers online or have a look at Monica Vinader.

A holiday in Whitby for her and a friend would be appreciated I feel sure. Whitby is a wonderful place whether you are a goth or not ! and don't get me started on Whitby fish and chips - very tasty. Time in Whitby to celebrate her special birthday will give lots of memories that will stay with her. Much better than buying something she may not like or giving money.

She may not always be a goth. I remember an aunt buying me a silver heart necklace which I did not appreciate at the time but loved it when I got older.

You could buy a star and have it named after her. You could get a commemorative coin for an event celebrated this year. If it is gold then it will increase in value and she can always sell it if times get hard. You could buy her a red letter day event which is something she will always remember and there will be a photo to keep.

Could you get her a small piece of goth jewellery, as a keep sake, then give her the rest in money so she can do with what she really wants , although personally I would say don't waste it but that's me

A weekend paid for at Whitby.

Goth heaven, or a lovely Whitby jet piece of jewellery?

why not get her some Whitby jet jewellery. It is a Goths dream and is fairly exclusive as its costly and for a Goth has real significance. It is available from jewellers on ebay

How about a personalised cushion, blanket or quilt with photos of her at different ages, her parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, even her pictures from infant school

The best 18th birthday present I was given was a green leather musical jewellery box with a dancing ballerina .
She has long since stopped dancing, but the box has been very useful.
DD just wanted money for hers as did DS.

I bought a personalised number plate for my oldest g’son’s 18th. He’s currently driving his step-mum’s “not needed just now” car, and hasn’t put the plate on it, he’ll wait until he has his own car.
Personalised plates are not something I’ve ever wanted, but he was instantly keen when I hinted at it. I really wanted to give him a watch, but that got a negative response, and my daughter, his Mum, agreed that he’d probably never wear it.

I think, given she's leaning towards "goth", that traditional gifts such as jewellery and bags are not great choices.
Why not ask her if she has something in mind that she would really love?

I like the idea of a keepsake box though with something - either cash or a promise, inside. This will stay with her.

When my GD was 18yr I gave her a token keepsake present it was a small little jewellery box which I had engraved with her name and happy 18th etc. Then the money I had intended to spend on her present/give her I put a cheque in the box and wrapped it up. That way she had a gift to keep and could spend the money on anything she wanted she is now in her 40s and still has the little box.

Sago - I was thinking a ‘posh’ handbag or backpack too. I do think girls are (generally) easier to buy for.

What about a beautiful leather hold-all with her initials embossed.
My sons each got one for their 18ths and use them still.

I think I agree to ask her what she’d actually like. You might be surprised if she picks a piece of jewellery or diamond ear studs! Both sets of our parents had saved every month with Northern Rock, so when DD1 was 18, there was enough for a little second hand car for her.
I remember getting a watch at 18 or 21, but it was one I’d already chosen. My Gran paid for all sorts for me - school uniform, school trip to Russia and even my wedding dress. My DD2 is 40 next year, so I have my thinking cap on already.

She lives too far away to take her out, and anyway which young person shops offline these days? Not necessarily a surprise, just something special.

Could you take her out to choose? Does it have to be a surprise? If your budget is generous perhaps she would love to buy something she wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford.

Thanks for all and above. She already has a driver’s license. Def not a hiker!
Has really “different” likes in music, clothes and jewellery- that’s why I am at a loss.

My grandson's 18th is coming up, he has asked for money as he wants to go on some trips, that will create memories that will last forever.

I think I got a watch for my 18th or it may have been my 21st, I don't know what happened to it, not many 18-year-olds really appreciate something to keep.

What does she like?

Plus the necessary thick thox of course

Minibaggs's 18th b'day present, during her first term at uni, was a very good pair of hiking boots. that's what she needed at the time and they'll last her a good while.

She loves them.