Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

Never let a phone/lap top etc save your log in details and password if anyone else is likely to use it. Is that what happened?

Kids are kids, very often they should know better but it's so tempting. It's possible that he didn't realise if it was for in game extras etc. I would speak to him asking if he realised that these things cost but do express that it's your mistake having saved the details etc. He needs to understand how things work and the cost.

Hithere

I dont get it

Being unsafe and careless on the internet is an "oopsie dont beat yourself about it, no big deal"

However, a 29 year old adult temporarily living with her parents spends the night out and she must send a text so her mother doesnt worry?
The daughter was pretty much crucified for being inconsiderate and rude.

Did the the parents of the GS even know OP's credit card information was in the iPad?
It hasn't been answered at all by the OP

None of your damn business lady

What a rude comment. Shinamae was only looking for empathy and maybe to see if anyone else has had this problem

Bibbity

Again. I was in no way outraged. I just did not know why OP would do that when it was completely unnecessary.
Simply highlights how uneducated some posters are regarding technology.

Oh dear, and thought I had known about technology since the mid 1960s.

I realise now how uneducated I am! ???
No, just rushing and it was soon rectified

I expect that's because
A. The issue is sorted.
B. The op has no obligation to justify herself to rude people on the internet.

I dont get it

Being unsafe and careless on the internet is an "oopsie dont beat yourself about it, no big deal"

However, a 29 year old adult temporarily living with her parents spends the night out and she must send a text so her mother doesnt worry?
The daughter was pretty much crucified for being inconsiderate and rude.

Did the the parents of the GS even know OP's credit card information was in the iPad?
It hasn't been answered at all by the OP

Nothin I honestly could not care less. You are subscribing feelings and intent to my posts that do not exist. It's a big pathetic overall.

I just wanted to save OP time. She wanted to cancel her card. The faceless name on a screen can do what they like and it never affected my day.

And?
So what?

Again. I was in no way outraged. I just did not know why OP would do that when it was completely unnecessary.
Simply highlights how uneducated some posters are regarding technology.

I'm a cynic, valdali but I still managed to join Amazon Prime not once but twice!

Some of the pompous, condescending replies on this thread are worthy of a comedy skit.

They certainly gave me a good laugh tickingbird! I particularly enjoyed the outrage that the OP had had the audacity to cancel her own bank card! How very dare she!

Haven't read all of this Shinamae, just your OP. I think its OK to tell DGS you're disappointed in him as long as you do it nicely & with humour & he knows he hasn't let you down in any irreparable way.I think 9yo is far too young for him to be able to tell that he was racking up payments on your card but that's partly the internets fault & not yours (presume you weren't born to it) or his (hasn't had time to get cynical about it).. Having had a nightmare with christmas gifts this year, & probably spent that amount on things that weren't appreciated, at least your present was enjoyed by him and hopefully has taught all concerned a lesson without any dreadful consequences.

Some of the pompous, condescending replies on this thread are worthy of a comedy skit.

“Apologising to gs’s parents for leading him into a crime”??!!
Just one out of several spouting utter nonsense. Seriously, it’s hard to believe such people exist!

Chewbacca

^I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff^

I love the pearl clutchers MissAdventure! Wind ' em up and watch 'em go!

Pleased you got it all resolved Shinamae, all's well that ends well and no casualties involved!

Thank you ????

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff

I love the pearl clutchers MissAdventure! Wind ' em up and watch 'em go!

Pleased you got it all resolved Shinamae, all's well that ends well and no casualties involved!

Elizabeth27

Pleased it's sorted. Did your grandson know what he was doing?

So nice to hear from a real gran rather than those that never put a foot wrong in life.

Thank you Elizabeth..?…. No, he did not actually know what was going on,I think he was told something would be free and then it turned out it wasn’t but as I say we’ve had the conversation and he’ll be much more aware now as well I!! ?‍♀️?…

Pleased it's sorted. Did your grandson know what he was doing?

So nice to hear from a real gran rather than those that never put a foot wrong in life.

grandtanteJE65

This is the worst of being Grandma. It is so long since our children were the age of our grandchildren that we have forgotten the details of what it was like.

I bridged the gap teaching 9- 16 year olds, so I know that if you give a 9 year old a lengthy explanation of ANYTHING he closes his ears - thus disproving the zoologists who maintain that the only mammel capable of closing its ears is the seal!

I assume you are talking about a Visacard or something similar. If so, ring your bank ASAP and cancel the card and get a new one, after making sure you either have another credit card you can use in the interim, or enough cash to tide you over until the new one and the PIN turns up.

Mention to you grandson if you like that you have had to do this, as it seems he, or someone else, has bought games using your card, and that this has cost you a lot of money.

Leave it at that.

Did his parents know that you used your card and warned theechild not to continue doing so?

In your place I would feel that apologising to them might be called for - you have inadvertently led their child into doing something the adult world sees as dishonest.

If you talk to the child or his parents about this, you should make it very clear indeed that you did a foolish thing you now regret.

I have cancelled the card if you bothered to read the thread. And I have sorted it with his parents but thanks for putting the boot in. Now off you go and polish your halo..?

This is the worst of being Grandma. It is so long since our children were the age of our grandchildren that we have forgotten the details of what it was like.

I bridged the gap teaching 9- 16 year olds, so I know that if you give a 9 year old a lengthy explanation of ANYTHING he closes his ears - thus disproving the zoologists who maintain that the only mammel capable of closing its ears is the seal!

I assume you are talking about a Visacard or something similar. If so, ring your bank ASAP and cancel the card and get a new one, after making sure you either have another credit card you can use in the interim, or enough cash to tide you over until the new one and the PIN turns up.

Mention to you grandson if you like that you have had to do this, as it seems he, or someone else, has bought games using your card, and that this has cost you a lot of money.

Leave it at that.

Did his parents know that you used your card and warned theechild not to continue doing so?

In your place I would feel that apologising to them might be called for - you have inadvertently led their child into doing something the adult world sees as dishonest.

If you talk to the child or his parents about this, you should make it very clear indeed that you did a foolish thing you now regret.

MissAdventure

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff.

rafichagran

Glad you have spoken to your Grandson. Ignore the smug patronising posts. You did the tight thing.

Thank you…??

Glad you have spoken to your Grandson. Ignore the smug patronising posts. You did the tight thing.

Shelflife

Shinamae, don't best yourself up about this ! Mistakes were made that you are fully aware of, please sort it and forget it. When you speak to your GS please reassure him that the initial mistake was yours not his. If he was unaware that he was playing with real money then perhaps the least said soonest mended ! Don't worry anymore. ?

Thank you, I have done exactly that, he is over here with me this afternoon and overnight and I’ve had the conversation with him not blaming him at all. I said I had something quite important to talk to him about and I just wanted him to tell me the truth and that he wasn’t in trouble and he just told me about these games and I said we will say no more about it,it was Nanas fault much more than yours…

Done it again , I meant beat!!

Best !