Embarrassment

The fact is we can’t drink as much as we used to, in my case I don’t have any alcohol in the house so when I am offered some at friends, I have to be very careful as it goes to my head straight away.
You could throw a dinner, or a lunch party with your friends just to make it known you are capable of doing these things, without mentioning the unfortunate incident. If someone brings up the subject, just laugh it off by saying it wasn’t your day.

No one has been as friendly with me as they were

I think says it all.

Getting so drunk your friends are embarrassed for you? Not a good look at any age. Sounds like an apology and flowers might be in order. And maybe a very low profile for a bit.

If she is a friend she knows you so don’t be embarrassed. As long as you didn’t offend anyone don’t worry falling asleep isn’t offensive.
After what we have all been through the last eighteen months there’s going to be lots parties and drinking.
We went to our rugby club today not been there since 2019 (we didn’t get drunk ) But we all had a toast to be grateful that we are survivors?

Hello, I expect it's because you feel a bit antsy over it, that your overthinking it.
Most of us have overstepped the alcohol and been that one at a celebration. I'd invite the host to afternoon tea and have relentless pots of tea while you put the world to right and then completely forget it . I feel sure it's probably overthinking it and they may even feel bad that you were drunk if they've not seen you drunk before. I'm sure by the next one it'll either be someone else or completely to forgotten ?

Granny1810, it happens to the best of us - at least once! There's no need for shame.

A colleague got wasted at a works do - ended up falling in a puddle outside, then refused to come back in to work (she was so embarrassed). I had to talk her into coming back.

When it was my 'turn' to overdo the alcohol, I remember some of it - the wild dancing, hugging/kissing everyone, then falling asleep under a table, throwing up in a bin bag on the journey home - yet still I walked in, laughing it off, the next day!

Lucca

“Get it in” ??

My mind is boggling

“Get it in” ??

Does getting drunk and falling asleep warrant an apology? Many of us have done it. At least you didn’t try to ‘get it in’ with any of the husbands!

If this was just a one off I wouldn't worry about it Granny1810 we have all been there. However if this is a more regular occurrence then maybe you need to reduce your alcohol consumption. I always try to alternate one alcoholic drink with a glass of water.

Sounds one hell of a party. When and where if i may be so bold as to ask is the next one ?

I think you might have to move house

Thank you everyone ❤️

Is this a genuine post ? very strange for an introduction

I remember going to a party at a friend's house. It was mainly for ladies who worked together but her husband made a lovely punch with lots of fruit in it.

It tasted very good and not very alcoholic. Luckily for me another friend was one or two drinks ahead of me and when I saw the state she was in, I stopped!

I was in the same car as her when we were given a lift home and she did not recognise her own house. Luckily someone saw her car and took her in!

Great minds tired old woman!

oops Sara1954 - similar posts !!

From one tiredoldwoman to another - you fell asleep at a party ! How wonderful , you must have felt relaxed in their company - they should feel honoured .
If you'd vomited on a cream carpet , tried to snog her husband or had a fist fight that might be something to hang your head about for a short while !
Enjoy the next party - no apologies needed x
You've made me smile today . x

I agree with Nortsat, don’t be embarrassed, move on

How close is your friend?
If it was one of my very close friends, who had seen me at my worst before, I would just laugh it off.
If it’s a newish friend, who you haven’t got much history with, it’s slightly more awkward.
But as long as you didn’t make a play for her husband, or throw up on her new carpet, I expect it will soon be forgotten, you were probably quite amusing (before you fell asleep)

Granny1810, people will soon forget, just carry on as normal. Do send a pretty card with a short apology, if that makes you feel better.

What would you do if the situation were reversed and a friend drank too much at an event you were holding?

If a friend did that at a party I was holding, I would smile a rueful smile and move on.
I wouldn’t expect a written apology but would be touched to receive one.

Not having been out much for the last 18 months and then having fun in company, I can see how it would be easy to misjudge how much you’ve drunk. Don’t be embarrassed, be kind to yourself and move on. ?

If you’ve apologised then carry on as normal.

You might not get invited to other events though. That’s up to them to decide.

Was there a reason you got so drunk? Had you just had a broken relationship, lost your job or anything like that? Most people have a lot of sympathy if that is the reason.

To be honest, if all you did was fall asleep and had to have a lift home, and you do not make a habit of behaving like this, then I think most people will shrug and just say to each other, 'What got into Granny1810 last night? That is not like her.

However, if you are known for your drinking and just had a night when you were far worse than usual. I think you need to stop, take a breather and be honest to yourself about the role alcohol plays in your life and whether it needs to change.

It doesn’t sound like you did anything terrible. Maybe you are thinking they’re being less friendly because you feel ashamed. These things usually blow over.

Would you feel it appropriate to write an apology to the hostess/host? No need to be effusive, or make excuses, keep it short. Word would soon get around amongst the circle who were there that you are contrite.
Meanwhile, if you feel bad, do you need to step back & look at your drinking habit?
In your shoes I’d write a note, lie low & think hard such that embarrassment doesn’t happen again.
Don’t mean to sound black & white about it esp as I have no experience of drunks. Horrible label that - “drunk” or “drunks”.

Peasblossom

So have you apologised to your friend?

For being drunk? For what you did when you were drunk?

Two different scenarios.

I did apologise for being drunk. I am an amiable drunk and fell asleep before being being carted off home.