Did your Mum ever say she loved you?

No. Neither parent ever said I love you, and they were not demonstrative either, but I tell my children and grandchildren frequently.

Perhaps I should go on Oprah and start whining.

No. But she had us so someone would love her is my theory. Long story and we are estranged due to a lifetime of dysfunction and she refuses to see her part in it.

Nor did we ever have any physical contact (hugs and such). As a result, I am uncomfortable with physical affection from anyone but my kids and mostly my husband. I am just not a touchy feely person and I dont want to hug anyone, except my kids.

I tell my kids I love them every day. I hug them as often as I can.

I do not want my kids to grow up wondering if they are loved. They absolutely are.

My parents both said it. Not all the time in the throw-away way people use it now. They saved it for important moments and said "oh, I do so love you" or "I love you so much". It may have been (when little) as they snuggled me into bed, as a teenager when "off out" in a party mood when they wanted me to have fun, when I'd done something they felt proud of or maybe if I was going back to university and would be gone for a while...

I know they loved me beyond all sense and reason.
I was truly truly blessed.

tanith

I don’t remember her ever saying it but I say it all the time to my children and Grandchildren.

Yes, this. Mum never said she loved me as a child, but she has said it just very recently, occasionally.

No, never. She very often said she hated me and I was a mistake!!
I tell my children and grandchildren I love them all the time but I find it far more important to SHOW someone you love them, words come very easy to some people.
Mind you my mum said and showed she hated me so at least she was consistent!
OP if you find it hard to say, then as long as you show them you love them that is enough. Have you thought about writing to them to tell them how you feel and your regrets at not being more verbally loving.

My parents never said " I love you " but me and my siblings knew we were loved. I had no doubt about it at all and I am eternally grateful for my happy and secure childhood and teenage years. I however told my children often how much I loved them and I tell my GC the same. I think it is a generational thing- it just wasn't done when I was young . Did'nt miss it at all ! I just knew I was loved. I was so lucky to have such caring parents. No fancy holidays , Dad worked long hours , not much spare cash but we were loved , fed and taught to care .

my mum never said it to me, i was sent to live with grandparents at age 12, she choose to stay with my step father and sent me away, i have never been able to forgive her for that even 40 years later, 3 years ago i had cancer, all the phone calls ended with love you....i say it but i am not sure i mean it, i am very tactile and my son gives me a cuddle as soon as he sees me, my son also tells me he loves in text messages and phone calls, i brought him up to know that he is the most important person in my life, my gran used to tuck me in..even at 12 and tell me she loved me, i think it just depends on the person.

Always. We are a huggy, touchy, feely family.

No. I don’t believe she did love me, but she wasn’t the type to say it anyway.

My parents should never have had children. My father never grew up and my mother had ambition and we got in the way of it. To say we were dysfunctional is an understatement! I accepted our chaotic life and thought it was how everyone lived. As a result I am a loner and whilst married with grown children always feel I wouldn’t be missed if I disappeared. I think I’m a good example of kids who aren’t nurtured by their carersI find it impossible to say I love you, feel really uncomfortable. Very sad but it’s how I am.

No never and she didnt.

My parents were good and worked hard but no my mum used to tell us we were not wanted. She would say she just wanted one child or maybe two. The first were twins then six one after the other. It’s sad really they were a lot better than some of my friends parents but struggled money wise and always argued.
The hippy sixties might have been great for some but not for us. I did love my parents I know they did their best with what they had. I was the brassy one who answered back my dads favourite. Two of my sisters were favoured by my mum I never quite understood why.
Later on in life mum before dementia struck mum was more affectionate. Truthfully it would have been nice to have heard it when we were little. They both came from big families it was the norm have kids and get on with it. I know I learnt from it telling my two I loved them all the time. Now thirty three and thirty and they still know I adore them.

no she didnt say it but i believe she did.
i try extra hard to make up for it now with my own.

My mother never did but I knew she loved me my father did not even like me . He was a widower with grown up children when he married my much younger mother and he really did not want another family . I had a spinster aunt who was always saying to me " Did I ever tell you that I love you " She loved all the children in the family and I am pleased that I repayed her in her later years. I always sent her a mother's day card etc..I am so happy my children were included in her love.

My mother did and my father. Always tell my daughters and my grandchildren.

I am very sorry to hear many of you were not told by mum that she loved them. I feel truly grateful mine did, so often and always and showed it too.My dad never said it, but it was so so clear in his actions and the way he behaved towards me.

Not something either said to me. I sat on my fathers knee much more than my mothers.
She didn't even say I looked good on my wedding day. I can still remember my father's words though as we get settled into the taxi he said "Nice day for it", it might as well have been a rugby match.

I didn’t hear it from my mum, but I say it weekly to my children when I talk to them or see them. I also tell them they look lovely, their hair is pretty or the colour of the clothes they are wearing suits them.
These were all compliments I never heard from my mum.
She said them to my sister instead.

I don’t think there was anything bad about it, I know both my parents loved me but I don’t remember any of us using those actual words, but I never ever felt that I wasn’t loved I hope they knew how much I loved them without me saying it

It’s a generational thing now a days everyone says ‘love you’ and it means no more really, they are words only

My Nan and grandad adored me their only grandchild but again I don't remember anyone actually using the words love except on cards and letters

No I don’t remember her saying it. We had a difficult relationship. I was born late to her and was an inconvenience. I never saw my mother and father show any affection for each other either. We are entirely the opposite as a family. My children and grandchild know they are loved and hear it often from both of us.

Not something my Mum ever said; but I said it all the time to mine, and to the GC.

It wasn’t the sort of thing that was said in our family, but I know my parents loved me, no doubt. I don’t say it to my adult children, though I do occasionally to my grandchildren but less so now they are teenagers. They would squirm.

I think she said it once just after my daughter died, but we never really got on.
My brothers and sisters and nieces and nephews, we all say it to each other which is lovely.

I don't think many people said this when I was a child, my mother certainly didn't and neither did my ex husband's parents.
My current husband is much more tactile and tells his children often that he loves them. I have tried to follow his example. I too think over use devalues the word.

All of the time. She is no longer with me, but I know that she adored me.
I tell my dad every day that I love him too.