Should I move to be by my daughter

Stay put

What if you move and visit frequency stays the same? What if she moves?

Why do you say she wont be pleased if you decide not to move?
How often do you see her now?

16 miles is very close. Even at 30mph if you or she drives it's only half an hour.
I'd stay put if I liked my area.

My daughter lives over sixty miles away it not far but I don’t drive on motorways so rely on DH. We were considering buying a small house near her but were put off. The prospect that they might move as their family grows or her husband changes his job location etc.

Our son lives only five miles away from us with his family. All our friends are here too they are like our family. We are also very involved in local volunteering here plus it’s where I grew up it’s where I am happiest.

If you have nothing holding you back and you could get property there don’t hesitate. It’s not far away if you want to visit friends. Weigh up the pros and cons what do you really want to do and will you be happier? Important issues you need to think about and take into consideration including your age and health. Get back to us and let us grans know what you decide ?

I travel 8 miles each way to my local supermarket! Takes me 12 minutes each way, I can’t see that 16 miles would make a difference to Her if she wanted to see you, however it will make a big difference to You, so don’t rush to move, if you are happy where you are then stay.

What if she moves away in a few years time after you go and live near her?

My great uncle sold his house and used some of the money to build an extension so she could live with his daughter. Over the next fifteen year, until he died, he ended up moving four times as his son in law changed jobs. He was very loved and welcomed but he struggled to make friends of his own and became very dependant on his daughter for company.

stay put. you could move closer and end up seldom seeing each other anyway.

Well I’d stay put if it was me, sixteen miles is no distance at all.
If you are happy and feel comfortable where you are, I definitely wouldn’t rush into anything.
Take your time, and look at all the pros and cons.