JSometimes I just need a Loving Cuddle

i miss hugs, i live alone. If you have an OH just give them a hug, they may well welcome it as much as you would. A quick hug is a 'pick me up' I you wait around for one you may never get it.

Goodness knows when I shall have hugs from my son and daughter again. They are both over 10,000 miles away.

I'm not used to hugging anyway (my family really weren't huggers) but I know there are weighted 'hugging' teddies available for hyperactive children.

I wonder if adult versions are available? If so, I bet their sales are booming!

I am fortunate to remember two of my Great Grandmas they were huggers as are all of our family members and those who have joined seem to have adapted to hugging . We have lots of close friends and we all seem to be huggers

I am so looking forward to hugs from family and dear friends

I’m a hugger,too. I kiss and hug all my friends when I meet them. This horrible disease has spoilt all that though the huggers amongst us are beginning to get back to normal over here. Until the next lousy plane load that is.

I am from a very hugging extended family, my parents hug us,
my siblings hugged each other, our children ,cousins hug each other, now I am estranged from them and my grandchildren can’t visit I so miss that human touch

I was never really hugged as a child, we just didn't in those days, did we. So when hugging became the thing I absolutely loved it and miss it like mad now.

My family have never really hugged. When my Dad died a lady said to me did you hug your Mum a lot. I said “no” and she said I would regret that for the rest of my life which I have to say upset me. The next time I saw my Mum I apologised for not hugging her and she said “thank goodness you didn’t I would have hated it”.

There is no real substitute for a hug and like a lot of people I do miss them.

Reading this I too miss hugs from my sons, and my Dad especially. I happen to be wearing my Dads cosy wool jumper I kept when he was gone. I tried cuddling myself and it is quite nice.

I have also heard about the Havening technique used by some counsellors. It may seem like mumbo jumbo but it could make you feel more comforted. Perhaps worth a look? www.ntu.ac.uk/about-us/news/news-articles/2020/06/give-yourself-a-virtual-hug-to-calm-stress-and-anxiety

i too miss cuddles. catman used to give me an occasional cuddle years ago, but he is neither demonstrative or a romantic. my daughter lives 150 miles away so no chance of getting one from her for many weeks, so i cuddle my cats and like to think that they reciprocate by thought!

It's hard isn't it EkwaNimitee.

Summer will be here soon and at least you have something nice to look forward to

I am from the South, you can pop in to see me and I can make you a nice cup of tea and give you a hug I make the best cup of tea even if I do say so myself, making a cup of tea is an art form for me ☕

Juliet27 honestly it is true, I would give anything to try again try harder but I haven't got that choice like I say his not coming back now

It's good that you do take time to really think about that, we are all guilty of being quick to see the worse and don't look hard enough for the good and that attitude just brings us sadness x

I feel the same, Msida. Over a year since I’ve had one. Even when I’ve had my second jab, it’s going to be mid-summer before I can travel south to my family. Assuming everyone remains sensible so we get no more restrictions.

^ Once their gone their not coming back then its just too late, please give that thought just 10 minutes of your life^

With so many sad stories here Msida I must admit I have often given that some thought

Kamiso I would absolutely love to have a rabbit but family member convinced me they encourage mice!!

annodomini Summer will soon be here lots of people vaccinated now and by summer almost everyone will be also, then you will be sble to go visit your loving family and they will be to come and visit with you

A lovely thing to be looking forward to and be grateful for

Good tip about the pillow thank you

My MIL bought herself a fluffy rabbit and told me she would stroke it sometimes as a kind of comfort thing.

Hetty58 I'm not really a dog person

I do use a few layers on blankets in the bed to feel that comfort

Thank you Juliet27

Mine is a 'huggy' family, unfortunately 150 miles away. My youngest GS, now a teenager, has a rib-breaking hug, the others are a little more gentle. I hope to see them all sometime this summer and then we shall have a hug-fest. That expectation is keeping me going; meanwhile, I snuggle into my duvet and hug a pillow.

It's so nice to be able to talk about it and get other people ideas and opinions, it's priceless

Hetty58 I'm not really an animal person to be honest.

I do have lots of layers at night to get that comfort feeling

Msida, a lapdog and a weighted blanket are just as good!

Juliet27 I know what your saying, same in my marriage, now I wish I'd made more effort

Once their gone their not coming back then its just too late, please give that thought just 10 minutes of your life