Nanny or Grandma

I only came on here out of interest to see how long it would be before we got the usual comments about Nanny and Nanna being a goat or the hired help.

I wonder if the people who say it actually mean to be so rude?

Jaxjacky my late stepmum she hated Nanna or Granny she liked Nan

Unfortunately it is a social indicator. To the middle and upper classes, a nanny/nana is, as Jaxjacky’s mother said, a hired help/ nursemaid. It’s not a word for grandmother.

My mother always hated nanny, she said a nanny is hired help!! She was Grandma, as am I.

Thank you for this cornergran. Although I understand it’s early days since the baby was born it’s been months since she’s been saying ‘I’m not calling you that’, and I have been excited about hearing the words ‘this is your Nanny’.
My Daughter only ever had one living Grandmother which is on my side, although not close (she handed custody of me to my Dad when I was little) she was ‘Nanna’ but my children haven’t had a proper relationship with her so she didn’t want that phrased used.

I agree with previous posters it is very early days & your "name" will evolve when your granddaughter starts speaking.
It was intended that I would be called nanny however my 3 year old granddaughter calls me " nanno" with a heavy emphasis on the "o" which tends to sound rather disapproving!!?. Don't let it spoil things.

Let things settle, crochetjo, I can understand you feeling upset but very early days yet. Tanith is right. Your relationship with your granddaughter won’t be dependent on a name. What did your daughter call her grandmother(s)? Could it be as simple as her not liking ‘nanny’ for some reason? Or alternatively wanting to keep the term for them? Try to relax about it, time will sort this one I’m sure. Congratulations on becoming a grandparent, please don’t let this spoil things.

Thank you Kittylester, I am new

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Welcome to gn if you are new.

Storm in a teacup. Sounds like underlying issues at play here anyway.

It matters not what ‘name’ they call you, you’ll develop your own relationship with her and a ‘title/name will evolve naturally I’m sure. My lot call me Nanny,Grandma and a new name for my GrtGC they are now calling me Gaga I don’t care what they call me as long as they call me.
Just enjoy your new GD and don’t fret about this.

It’s a bit early to be getting upset by this to be honest, baby is less than a week old! Let things settle down and see how it goes. Your DD is very young and was pregnant/ hormonal when you discussed this so I would give her some time to adjust to being a mum!