I don't want to leave LO overnight yet

She thinks you are being unreasonable!! She should look at the bigger picture an aggressive dog, a young baby! She doesn’t call the shots, you as the parents do, very selfish all about her, and what she wants and expects, you say she’s demanding and never happy, good luck with her, I’m glad your husband is sticking to the rules too,

Lucca

The child is yours. You get to decide where he stays, what he eats, and where he sleeps. Why does she insist that he stays there? So that she can flaunt the fact with her cronies? So she is one up on them? Ask her the reason she wants to have him overnight; not to give in, but just so you know what's on her mind.

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

A dog lover here (with visiting GDog lounging on the sofa beside me right now), but if your MiL has a dog which needs to be muzzled DO NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES LEAVE A CHILD ALONE WITH IT! EVER! Sorry, I don’t generally shout but that dog sees your child as an intruder. The opposition. Someone to take his/her place. And s/he has teeth. Sharp ones.

Your baby. Your rules. It’s up to you and your partner alone if and when you leave your precious child with anyone. As Callistemon says you don’t often see a thread on here where there is complete unanimity - it may be a first. Print it out and show it to her.

Please don’t question yourself! You and your husband are right for all the reasons you mention.

Here

If there's a problem you could show her this thread.
I think most on her are parents and grandparents and I think we are unanimous.

Which makes a change.

Wouldn’t matter to me if he was 10, with a dog that needs muzzling when he is there he wouldn’t be stopping.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. As soon as I read the bit about the dog I thought 'oh no, please don't take the risk'.

Many years ago when my daughter was very young, my in laws had a dog that often bared it's teeth and growled at her. They admonished it, but when I think back it makes me shudder....

Think you've made the right decision all in all*Lesim*. Keep your eyes on that dog!

Toadinthehole thank you, I've had my fair share of horror stories related to my MIL but I've always tried to keep things civil as the rest of my in-laws are lovely and I wouldn't want my husband or my son to miss out on seeing them x

You sound lovely and very accommodating. I suggest you read some of the estrangement threads and you’ll see some real horrors of MIL’s. Get yourself prepared!?

Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond!

We're going to stick to our guns with the overnight thing. We give them plenty of opportunities to see him- we've seen them most weekends since the restrictions eased.

We're also going to be politely request that the dog is kept upstairs on our next visit, otherwise all visiting will have to take place at our house!

Thanks for your responses, she always makes me doubt myself xx

Lovely to see a unanimous response.

LO - Little One

What’s an LO Lost Oranges?

I think you should just say you don't want him to stay.
Irrespective of the wretched dog!

We just said no. It was tough. We said "no, thank you for the offer. We will bear it in mind for when they are bigger"

And just kept repeating it. We said we felt they weren't ready. They can argue with how you feel.
They will argue with anything rational if you try to have reasons!

I think this is a big lesson in that feelings are 100% impossible to argue with. They are yours and no one can deny them... they might say they make no sense but, hey, this is just how you feel.

Good luck.

No, you are not being unreasonable. A one year old is very little to be leaving with anyone overnight.

I waited until the grandchildren asked to come for a sleepover. DGD was about 2 1/2 before she wanted to stay.

We had a little terrier. She was the loveliest, most gentle little dog but I didn't trust her around the babies. Whenever they visited I put the dog into the kitchen and there she stayed until they left. The DGC were introduced to her gradually.

You have to think of the happiness and safety of your son. It comes before the wants of a grown woman who should understand your reluctance.

No way; he is not a toy, nor a pet to be loaned out. If she persists, and if/when you feel ready, say about two years down the line, agree, but you stay as well.

No, nothing unreasonable about your decision.

Much as I love my one year old grandson I wouldn't want him to stay for his own sake. They need their parents at that age and this sounds as though your MiL is only thinking of herself not the baby.

I wouldn't take him at all while there is a vicious dog in the house.

"One step back" has always been my motto. We have had the grandchildren overnight when they were very young, as requested by their parents, but what's so great about having little ones wander into your bedroom at stupid o'clock, often still dark, with a "time to get up nana/grandad"

"I'm at a loss to fathom the reason some grandparents crave overnight stays" playing mummy again vicariously. Seemingly having been a parent once, is not enough for some, must do it all over again with grandchild/ren, even if the actual parents don't want that

I am at a loss to fathom the reason some grandparents crave overnight stays. For little people to wake up in the night in a bed that's not their own and neither Mummy nor Daddy present could be quite upsetting. Be patient and wait until little four, five, six year old asks to stay then it becomes a joyful, exciting adventure.
Lesim91 your baby, your call. I think the baby is far too young and I'd certainly be wary of the dog.