Neighbour.

You have the right attitude. Don't let her get to you and if things don't settle then start a log and record what's happening. However I would suggest that you try to mend bridges if at all possible. Some people thrive on anger but I tend to lean towards least said soonest mended, if you can of course. Good luck!

You could also record on your phone any abuse. Sorry you have to deal with this. Lots of good advice above.

Contact her landlord and complain to him .

We have up to now ignored it, don't want to make things worse.
She only rents her house this house has been rented out for the last 30 years thats why i said we have had worse.
This woman lives on her own and is in her late 50s so not a youngster, she has lived here for 5 years and this is the first time we have had any problem.
I have Tinnitus so loud noise really gets to me and makes it worse.
I just needed to vent really.
I know realistically there isn't a lot we can do other than move into a field in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours. ?

If you can be 100% sure that it's " weed " you can smell, then you have a case. Aggression is not acceptable within a neighbourhood and if it's exacerbated by cannabis using then report it to the police as the habit only gets worse along with the behaviour that goes with it.
Nobody should have to live in fear !!

I think this is good advice, it may all blow over, but if it doesn’t, you won’t be seen as part of the problem.
It’s horrible living like this, your home should be somewhere to feel safe and relax

Ignore if you can. It must be horrible for you but you have done nothing wrong. Is there somewhere you could ask for advice? Your local councillor? CAB? Police station? someone who knows the area and who knows these people.
This brought back memories for me . Years ago a young woman neighbour, who had small children, took an irrational dislike to me and would snarl vile things to me and to our children as we walked past. My DD was frightened.
In that case I phoned the letting agents (it's a block of flats) who sounded sympathetic and who told me that some families were in emergency housing. She said she would try to help.
This was news to me and I began to have some understanding, if not sympathy, with this person.
I tried to avoid her entirely and we luckily have another entrance we could use.
I'd almost forgotten about her when 6 months later she and her partner came to help me dig my car out of the snow! I didn't recognise her in her hooded coat.
When it was done she smiled and told me they'd got a council house and were moving. She was happy. I think she even apologised!

The main thing is not to retaliate, no matter how strong the provocation, and with neighbours like this, the inclination to do so will be strong.

While you do not retaliate and simply report, and keep reporting, her behaviour to the appropriate authorities, you ar on the side of the angels, once you retaliate, firstly things escalate and secondly you are seen as part of the problem.

Remember, if the authorities do not respond, you can speak to your local council member and if necessary take the matter up with your MP.

This all sounds horrible for you, being on bad terms with your neighbors is really stressful.
I agree about ignoring it for now, and hoping it will go away, anything you do could just escalate the situation
Good luck with it

I would try and ignore the behaviour for now and see if things improve. It is certainly very frustrating but perhaps if you ignore it they will go back to civil behaviour.

Take photos of obstructing vehicles too. Record, on your phones, any instances of destructive behaviours.

If this woman is a pot head then it's probably not going to get any better but, as MOnica says, almost certainly not personal.
Although it may seem like that to you as you are the target.
Be prepared. You just never know.

I think the first thing to say is that the start of this behaviour has nothing to do with you personally, just the kind of stroppy neighbour who hates all neighbours on principle.

From what you say she is addicted to something; cannabis, alccohol or something else - and that can make people paranoid and difficult.

If she plays loud music again you can report her to the council. They will investigate and come and take readings when she plays music and if it is loud enough and continuous enough sh will be given a warning and could be taken to court

Similarly, if your properties are rented from the council or ahousing association you can report her behaviour to them and they will deal with it.