I've found that caffeine makes my urge incontinence worse. A year or so ago, I bought an electronic pelvic floor exerciser from Amazon. It took a few goes to get the hang of it but then I used it regularly and it made a huge difference. I do have to keep going with it or the incontinence gets worse, one of the many binds of getting older. 
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