Holidaying with my daughter, son in law and 2 and half year old grandsons

Thanks so much for your input, it really is much appreciated. It's good to know that I'm not the only grandparent that feels this way. Yes, I too do love them both (twins) but can't envisage a week on a kid filled week away with other screaming kids. And no, my daughter hasn't offered to pay but I don't mind,I just prefer spend the money towards a cruise nowadays.

Well at least you won`t be asked again . BTW Would you have had your own room in the hotel where you could escape if you need to ? I will go with my S , DIL and baby next year and am really looking forward to it , I will spend as much time as possible with the baby . We always rent a cottage because none of us really like staying in hotels so maybe that would be easier if your inlaws had chosen that option. The only thing I would not want to do is to stay in a caravan with two other adults and two children which I did a few years ago and hated it . I came home and needed a holiday .

I only do family holidays in cottages or overseas villas. I do not do other people's children especially in hotel restaurants. If they want childcare be upfront about it and pay for you to join them.

If they are paying - crack on with it and buy earplugs. If you are paying any reasonable person (and definitely your DD when she reaches your situation!!) would totally understand the 'I'm sorry darling but whilst I adore my grandchildren, I do find the idea of a holiday surrounded lots and lots of others simply exhausting and that is why on my limited budget I go on holiday with like minded people of my own age!'.

We do occasionally go on holiday with our grandchildren but we hire self catering apts in the same small complex so we can retreat to peace and calm whenever we want to. I also have to say that DD1 has two little girls and DD2 has two little boys and until the latter have calmed down a bit DD1 will not go on holiday with the cousins!! Lots of meet ups and weekends but no holidays yet! I think the word 'holiday' is the key here.

It would not be for me; most of the people we know choose adults only hotels for their holidays these days. I love my grandson to distraction but would only go away with the family if it was a cottage holiday. And after the holiday we spent together in August I would even have to think hard about that! Do what you feel is best for you, not what would keep others happy.

Well if they were offering to pay I'd probably go and offer free babysitting ,but that sort of holiday would be my idea of hell and I would be doing it for them not me .