Does birth order matter?

I'm the youngest of four brothers, with a total of 9 years between us. I don't recognise any of these traits, I'm afraid. When I was growing up in the fifties, my oldest brother was my male role model as my father was frequently working away.

Having carefully read the post I realise that a man's observations are just as relevant.
We have two children separated by 5 years. The eldest, our DD is worrier, even to the stage of tending towards being bi-polar, she has a very stressful job that pushes her too far quite often, but without that stress she is bored. We have always thought she just took after me, as that is exactly how I am. Our son is the opposite, whilst he also has a stressful job as a company director, he is so laid back and rarely shows sign of any stress, exactly like Mrs. P. We had always thought theses were traits inherited from us, but it could well be the birth order. Our DD children are also very different in a way that the birth order may have affected, ie her second child is the laid back content one.

As the eldest of three sisters, I don't think I am the bossiest. The youngest has always been the most assertive, perhaps because she had to be. However, I am always right.

My mum was the oldest of 3 daughters, so am I and I have 3 daughters. I love the birth order personality lists by janeainswoth. My middle daughter posted it on her fb page a while ago and it certainly applies to mum, her own daughters and my 3.

absent - there was a tv programme last year about research into the prevalence of gay men who are the youngest in groups of brothers, particularly twins. The theory linked falling testosterone levels. I don't know about research challenging this but we do have family members where the youngest twin (3 brothers or more in the families) is gay. Interesting isn't it

Yes birth order is very important to me, I let my wife go first
Having made my usual flippant comment, I will leave it to the experts to debate - and lurk with interest as our two children could not be more different.

I have heard that it is more to do with birth experience than order. A first child has to fight more to be born and this is what gives them their unique personality traits. Subsequent children often have an easier birth experience which makes them more laid back and the most laid back of all are children born by Caesarean who don't have to fight at all to be born. All these theories can be disproved by individual examples but they are interesting nevertheless.

Great thread absent . Definitely true of my three DGC Janeainsworth

Of course, you probably know the famous comment about Osama bin Laden: typical middle child, eleventh of 23.

What do you see happening with your grandchildren? I now have six in the same family, so should become an expert on this subject over the years ahead.

My elder sister (I am one of two) was always the beautiful and clever one – or, at least, that is how I thought my parents, especially my mother perceived her. I was the plain child – and I certainly was a plain child – and the clown. I still feel a shadow of this now although we have equal academic qualifications and there are many aspects of my life that seem to me better and brighter than hers.

My eldest sister wasn't bossy so much as perfect in every respect. As third of five daughters and one son (he was the prince), I was the peacemaker and also the most outspoken. It was the only way to get any attention!

I liked being the eldest- I was certainly the bossy one!

I did some reading up on this some years ago.

My birth order according to the books I read is the worst one - an only female child who replaced a female child who passed away

My eldest son is definitely the one I would depend on in times of stress and my youngest son definitely thinks the rules don't apply to him. The middle one seems quite at ease with his position in the family.

Only children have a reputation for being self reliant and perhaps a bit selfish. That isn't true in my opinion but then I'm an only child and definitely know best.

Yes I think it must if only by the way the parents manage the children.

Children in a family often have very different personalities but some of that is probably down to genes.
I am a second girl of two and about 4 yrs younger than my sister. We are very different in personality but again I think that is a lot to do with genetic personality traits .My sister is like our mum anxious type and I am much more like !y Dad.
All very interesting, I wonder if anyone has done some recent research

Love that JaneA. May get that printed out on tee shirts for my three for C*******s!

DD1 is certainly bossiest. DD2 is the peacemaker (she claims to be the unloved middle one) and DS was very protected by his sisters - until he married. So perhaps there is something in it.

I'm an only one, so am perfect.

As a middle child, I couldn't agree more janeainsworth!

Not heard that last one Absent.

It's a pity we cant post pictures directly onto threads. Recently there was a Facebook post, a picture of 3 T-shirts suitable for 3 siblings.

The first one said I'm the oldest, I make the rules
The second said I'm the middle one, I'm the reason the rules were invented
The third said I'm the youngest, the rules don't apply to me

Yes, yes and yes