My daughter has excluded me because I did not like the name she chose for her new baby.

I’m not sure I believe this post!

If it’s real, why on earth does the OP think she has any right to choose her grandchild’s name? When my granddaughter was born I was very surprised at the name her parents chose, yet, never in a million years would I make disparaging comments.

Like LLFL I find it hard to take this seriously.
Grandparents have NO rights whatsoever to even an opinion on a baby’s name.
The name does not define the child, the child will be him or herself and grow up to give a whole new meaning to their name.
“Family “ names are silly, names go in and out of fashion and just because Granny was Joyce, Barbara, Araminta or Doris is no reason to choose that for a baby born in 2025.
So often when Grans ask “SIBU” I am tempted to reply “It’s not all about you”
Heed that and you can’t go far wrong.

OK AIBU of course!

DW and I chose our children's names with no thought about what family names might be; the names were unusual, but accepted without demur by the grandparents. In their turn, our children chose their children's names, and we were happy with their choices. One DGC has his grandfathers' first names as his two middle names, but there was no involvement in the choice. It is the parents' prerogative.

If you dont see that you overstepped the mark and apologise the name will be irrelevant as you will not see the family at all.

My parents could not agree on my name. So the day they were taking me home my mother opened the newspaper to see a front page saying there had been a house fire and a baby had been thrown out the window! They finally agreed I would have that baby's name! But I share my mother's middle name.

Obviously she admired their car, clothes, and seemingly endless plastic surgery and terrible eyebrows

I am afraid that I couldn't take this OP seriously after reading this.

Parsley3

^Obviously she admired their car, clothes, and seemingly endless plastic surgery and terrible eyebrows^

I am afraid that I couldn't take this OP seriously after reading this.

Yes, I find it difficult to believe.

In fact, I would go as far to say that the OP could be the subject of a novel and this is the writer way of researching

Unusual names grow on us. Children can make names lovely in no time.

Call me stupid, but why are so many posters doubting the validity of this post?

Crossstitchfan

Call me stupid, but why are so many posters doubting the validity of this post?

I think everyone thinks it's a fake post is that surely no one is stupid enough to tell a new mum they dislike her babies name.
Whether you like the name or not just grin and bear it.e

You say no-one would tell a new mum they dislike their baby’s name. Well, my in-laws did just that. They turned up at the hospital (uninvited) the day she was born, especially to register their dislike of it (it wasn’t ‘way out’ or anything, they just disliked it). Worse still, they told us what names they would like our baby to be called!
We stuck with our original choice and they had to put up with it. They made snide comments for years after until I threatened them with exclusion if they kept ridiculing our choice.
I was lucky that both my daughters chose lovely names for their babies. Without any help from me I might add but I would never have dreamt of criticising even if I hadn’t liked the names. Talk about making a new mum feel even more fragile!

Although I said very little, I was extremely worried about what my grandchildren’s names might be. Some very bizarre ones were discussed. I am very interested in names and have strong opinions about them. Luckily, in the end it was all right.

Usefully, the other grandmother and I have the same first name. My granddaughter has it as a middle name, so we are both happy and nobody feels left out.

BlueBelle

Most of my grandchildren have out of norm names not way out but not average either I think that’s great none have family names
Absolutely nothing to do with you at all and you would be fine if you hadn’t gone on about it
Troy s not exactly way out I thought you meant something like ‘Toilet’ or ‘Greenforest’ or something but even if it was nothing to do with you at all

😂

Are we sure OP isn’t Elon Musks mother?
Here's everything to know about Elon Musk's 14 children: Nevada, Vivian, Griffin, Kai, Saxon, Damian, X Æ A-12, Exa, Strider, Azure, Techno, Arcadia, Seldon Lycurgus and his child with St. Clair.[grn]

This has got to be a wind up. I really cannot take it seriously 🤣🤣🤣

And sometimes parents choose unusual names because the family name is very common; e.g. Achilles Smith would stand out a lot more than John Smith.

Before I saw this thread I was musing on the names of some of my DGC's school friends.

None of the boys seem to be called after saints any more. Footballers' names seem to be the most popular choice (I don't mean St David, of course).

Anyway, best to smile and say that's lovely or say nothing if you hate it. Troy is fine 🙂

Willow11

Crossstitchfan

Call me stupid, but why are so many posters doubting the validity of this post?

I think everyone thinks it's a fake post is that surely no one is stupid enough to tell a new mum they dislike her babies name.
Whether you like the name or not just grin and bear it.e

I think everyone thinks it's a fake post is that surely no one is stupid enough to tell a new mum they dislike her babies name.

My MIL said she disliked my choice for DC3. She wasn't stupid, just spoke her mind 😁
We abandoned that and chose something else, but perhaps should have stuck to our original.

I agree with Crossstichfan. Why do so many people think this is a windup. When I had my third son over 30 years ago my mother in law and my sister in law were most put out. They said how could I possibly call my baby such a horrible name. I wouldn't mind its a very ordinary name. I don't want to say what it is but it's like David or John or something. Not a bit outlandish. Not that I took any notice.

A quick visit to Mumsnet would highlight that this type of problem is all to prevalent. Our dear OP shared the name in the false belief she would be validated. Of course a person who believes herself rather just in browbeating her daughter over a name would expect others to agree. Perhaps under a different topic heading they would have.

Iam64

Well there’s a surprise isn’t it Cossy, a rather ludicrous OP from a new poster who doesn’t then return, trip trop

😂

Probably because she was hoping for vindication but it’s been unmitigated oppobrium.

Sometimes it’s hard not to have a wry smile when hearing names. Such a lovely couple a couple of doors away from us, in their early thirties, have called their beautiful children, Arthur and Olive, every time I see them I think of “On the Buses”

Then two other young Mums, both with twins, one with two boys, Ronnie & Reggie 😱 and the other, a boy and girl, Harrison and Honey-Bee!

If OP does ever come back and is real, she should just be grateful for Troy!

Cossy

Sometimes it’s hard not to have a wry smile when hearing names. Such a lovely couple a couple of doors away from us, in their early thirties, have called their beautiful children, Arthur and Olive, every time I see them I think of “On the Buses”

Then two other young Mums, both with twins, one with two boys, Ronnie & Reggie 😱 and the other, a boy and girl, Harrison and Honey-Bee!

If OP does ever come back and is real, she should just be grateful for Troy!

I know several young mums who have named their son's Arthur..