Feeling Ancient

I think someone’s having us on.

The neighbour could have been ‘fishing’, trying to find out more about you without alerting your husband that he’s taken an interest. Whatever, he’s a neighbour to be kept at a polite distance.

Lessons to be learnt: take a wide berth of said neighbour in the future. Who wants to chat with someone who makes personal comments? Secondly, I too went through a phase in my early sixties where I was on the cusp of getting older and felt not in and not out. However, now that I am over 65 I am comfortably enjoying wisdom, choices, and 'who cares' far more. Thirdly: lucky you having a younger very handsome husband,

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If you have managed to get through life without ever hearing someone say something really rude and personal to your face, or through someone close, all I can say is that you have led a very sheltered life.

A remark like this is just about worth a short laugh, and then to be forgotten. To dwell on it is a waste of unnecessary thought.

As you’ve said elsewhere ND,
don’t speculate.

Don't worry about it, just keep doing what your doing Nature is obviously kind to you.

Your DH didn't really think, when he told you, no excuse but they can be a bit dense at times. He was just telling you what the nosy neighbour said.

Germanshepherdsmum

You assumed the neighbour was a man NanaDana. Nothing the OP has said has indicated the neighbour’s gender has it?

Exactly so, GSM.. as I've just said...it was an assumption based on the lack of any further information. And your point is?

The neighbour is a man.

He definitely wasn’t being cruel. He just didn’t think anything of it.

Nope, maybe it was a ‘they’ 😬

Age and money are 2 no-nos. You have a very rude neighbour 😡

You assumed the neighbour was a man NanaDana. Nothing the OP has said has indicated the neighbour’s gender has it?

I also assumed (incorrectly maybe) that the neighbour was a man.

Either way, what a strange remark for a new neighbour to make. Hardly the way to get off to the best start.

I should be civil, but not go out of my way to get very close to them.

As Hetty58 said, it was unkind of your husband to tell you.

If that was the actual conversation, I’m astonished. How very rude and it’s a shame your DH didn’t shut him down by asking if he was doing a survey. I’d be cross with mine for even discussing such personal stuff with someone we barely knew! ! Don’t sulk, maybe it’s a good time to explain to the chap who loves you how that’s made you feel, and hopefully that won’t happen again. Meanwhile, don’t let some ignorant comment ruin your plans to start some classes. Enjoy yourself!

BlueBelle

Oh don’t be silly giving up your classes because of a stupid remark but I d watch that neighbour sounds like flirting to me and he was flattered enough to tell you

Where did it say that the neighbour was a woman? I assumed it was a man, but it's a rude comment in either case.

My thoughts too BlueBelle.

Oh don’t be silly giving up your classes because of a stupid remark but I d watch that neighbour sounds like flirting to me and he was flattered enough to tell you

Firstly, the neighbour was extremely rude to say that to your husband. Secondly, I would have expected your husband to tell him just that, and then to refrain from passing that comment on to you. Too much information. So in fact I'd be more disappointed and "bothered" by your husband's reaction than by anything that was said by a socially inept neighbour.

Not bother me but annoy me 😲 what a cheeky neighbour.
Forget it and do what you want to workwise.

Sounds like she was flirting and deliberately undermining you.. one to watch out for maybe?

I was just about to say the same Hetty.

Why would he tell you that they said it? Cruel!